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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 227285" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You may want to post on Parent Emeritus for parents of adult children. But right now I can tell you it sounds as if there is much more wrong with her, way beyond ODD and depression. I also think she needs a psychiatrist, not a counselor. Her behavior is not normal and I don't think she can act normal right now. She's too sick. </p><p>I have a few questions:</p><p>How was her very early development? Did she cuddle? Did play normally with other kids? Did she do well in school?</p><p>You say she had night terrors. Is anyone on her family tree diagnosed with mood disorders? Frankly, she sounds far more bipolar than depressed to me. That behavior is way out there for depression and ODD, I agree, is not a useful diagnosis, especially not at her age. Is there any schizophrenia in your family? Is there a history of substance abuse (this problem is common with mood disorders). Does she ever say she hears things in her head? Does she ever see things that aren't there? Has she ever been in a hospital (I think a hospital is a good place for her right now) and did she see a Psychiatrist? I think she needs a Psychiatrist, not a counselor. I can't see what a counselor can do. Since she is 20 and dangerous you can try to commit her for being a danger to others. If this were my child, that's what I'd do. I doubt if she's in the frame of mind to understand just how much she needs help. If she has been like this all her life she likely suffers from a serious mental illness and she isn't going to be able to live alone without getting into some sort of trouble because of her illness. At the same time, she can't live with you if somebody can get hurt. Also, we can't tell you how to answer anyone when the person is mentally ill. She will probably explode unpredictably regardless of how good your answers are. If you get her into a hospital, then you can plan where she can live afterward--maybe there is assisted housing or a group home. Did she have a psychiatrist when she was young? You may want to give more history. But the bottom line is, she needs help and it is dangerous to have her live with you because of her illness. I wouldn't risk it. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 227285, member: 1550"] You may want to post on Parent Emeritus for parents of adult children. But right now I can tell you it sounds as if there is much more wrong with her, way beyond ODD and depression. I also think she needs a psychiatrist, not a counselor. Her behavior is not normal and I don't think she can act normal right now. She's too sick. I have a few questions: How was her very early development? Did she cuddle? Did play normally with other kids? Did she do well in school? You say she had night terrors. Is anyone on her family tree diagnosed with mood disorders? Frankly, she sounds far more bipolar than depressed to me. That behavior is way out there for depression and ODD, I agree, is not a useful diagnosis, especially not at her age. Is there any schizophrenia in your family? Is there a history of substance abuse (this problem is common with mood disorders). Does she ever say she hears things in her head? Does she ever see things that aren't there? Has she ever been in a hospital (I think a hospital is a good place for her right now) and did she see a Psychiatrist? I think she needs a Psychiatrist, not a counselor. I can't see what a counselor can do. Since she is 20 and dangerous you can try to commit her for being a danger to others. If this were my child, that's what I'd do. I doubt if she's in the frame of mind to understand just how much she needs help. If she has been like this all her life she likely suffers from a serious mental illness and she isn't going to be able to live alone without getting into some sort of trouble because of her illness. At the same time, she can't live with you if somebody can get hurt. Also, we can't tell you how to answer anyone when the person is mentally ill. She will probably explode unpredictably regardless of how good your answers are. If you get her into a hospital, then you can plan where she can live afterward--maybe there is assisted housing or a group home. Did she have a psychiatrist when she was young? You may want to give more history. But the bottom line is, she needs help and it is dangerous to have her live with you because of her illness. I wouldn't risk it. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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