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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful parent" data-source="post: 758429" data-attributes="member: 21585"><p>So I am feeling a bit better today as my son has not rang me and I have a friend that I had a chat to. She listens to me when it gets really bad, which is nice. We always need someone to talk to. I try not to bother her with all our dramas though, only when it gets really bad. I prefer to talk about other stuff with her. </p><p>Even though I have made the promise to myself that this is it, I am going to cut my son out of my life completely. It is still hard, though harder being abused by him. It is actually more than abuse. It is dreadful stuff that he says. But in doing this I would like some advice. I do plan to pack up all his court paperwork etc and his mail and send to him. Just wondering should I pop a note in with it to explain that I have had enough and that I am going to cut the ties with him. </p><p>I was also then going to add that I think he and his partner have serious problems that I am no longer willing to tolerate and that my suggestion is that they put their little boy Into voluntary temporary foster care and then both of them find rehabs to go to, so they can do something about their addictions and sort themselves out so they can give the little boy a better life. That is all I want to say to them, but I know this will enrage his girlfriend again and probably cause more drama in their house. Which I don't want to be the cause of. So then I think maybe I should just send them the paperwork and no note. And leave it at that. </p><p>I am serious about my intentions to cut them out of our lives completely. I can never help him while he is with his current partner. The situation is hopeless and dangerous for us. He when he was with us for the month on bail, by the second week he had calmed down and was starting to feel better and he would give me a peck on the cheek of a morning and we would have a yarn etc. He was getting better. But she kept ringing him, even though she had him up on assault which is why he was at our house on bail. </p><p>After the phone calls which he took in his room with the door closed he would come out and say all this nasty stuff to me, then the next day he would be okay again. He has actually told us after talking to her that he could kill us. So as you can see I really do need to cut him off completely. My son has not been in trouble with the law until he met her. She though has a record with the police from before she met my son. She has also now been to jail. So if he chooses to stay with her and can say the things to us without remorse then we need to cut him out of our lives completely. It is still very sad, to have to walk away from your own son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful parent, post: 758429, member: 21585"] So I am feeling a bit better today as my son has not rang me and I have a friend that I had a chat to. She listens to me when it gets really bad, which is nice. We always need someone to talk to. I try not to bother her with all our dramas though, only when it gets really bad. I prefer to talk about other stuff with her. Even though I have made the promise to myself that this is it, I am going to cut my son out of my life completely. It is still hard, though harder being abused by him. It is actually more than abuse. It is dreadful stuff that he says. But in doing this I would like some advice. I do plan to pack up all his court paperwork etc and his mail and send to him. Just wondering should I pop a note in with it to explain that I have had enough and that I am going to cut the ties with him. I was also then going to add that I think he and his partner have serious problems that I am no longer willing to tolerate and that my suggestion is that they put their little boy Into voluntary temporary foster care and then both of them find rehabs to go to, so they can do something about their addictions and sort themselves out so they can give the little boy a better life. That is all I want to say to them, but I know this will enrage his girlfriend again and probably cause more drama in their house. Which I don't want to be the cause of. So then I think maybe I should just send them the paperwork and no note. And leave it at that. I am serious about my intentions to cut them out of our lives completely. I can never help him while he is with his current partner. The situation is hopeless and dangerous for us. He when he was with us for the month on bail, by the second week he had calmed down and was starting to feel better and he would give me a peck on the cheek of a morning and we would have a yarn etc. He was getting better. But she kept ringing him, even though she had him up on assault which is why he was at our house on bail. After the phone calls which he took in his room with the door closed he would come out and say all this nasty stuff to me, then the next day he would be okay again. He has actually told us after talking to her that he could kill us. So as you can see I really do need to cut him off completely. My son has not been in trouble with the law until he met her. She though has a record with the police from before she met my son. She has also now been to jail. So if he chooses to stay with her and can say the things to us without remorse then we need to cut him out of our lives completely. It is still very sad, to have to walk away from your own son. [/QUOTE]
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