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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 548735"><p>I didn't have a difficult time. difficult child had been in and out of the house for a year and a half or so when we had our turning point. She was constantly leaving for days on end and coming home only to crash and eat. During the times she was home, she would make life completely miserable for everyone here - probably because she was coming down and she is a miserable, venom spewing B when she is crashing. She had claimed she was clean, begged to come home for Christmas, feeling sentimental and hopeful we allowed her to come back home. Things were great for a month and then I found a meth pipe in her room. I called her where she was and told her she could submit to treatment, or she could no longer live in this house. She chose the latter and only came back to grab some things. </p><p></p><p>Here we are a year and a half later and she has survived on the streets this whole time. She is only just starting to get tired of the life. She is making steps to change things and I believe she is clean or at least was clean for a while when I saw her. But, she is just as addicted to a boyfriend that is zero good for her and that is not helping things...</p><p></p><p>But, I digress. I do not see a signature so I have no idea how old your difficult child is. The law can help you remove them if it comes to that. </p><p></p><p>As for you and husband being on the same page - that is imperative. My husband and I had our own addiction issues growing up. Because of this, my husband was always hard lined and always showed tough love. I was the soft one that relented all the time. One night my husband broke down in tears and told me how he felt - that we were growing apart and our lives seem to be lived solely for the kids and what would we have once they were gone? Everyone is right - kids grow and move out - you need to ensure you have a relationship with the one person that is a constant in your life. My marriage has been better than it ever has since that night. It woke me up and woke up my heart as corny as that sounds...</p><p></p><p>I know how hard it is to go against all of your natural instincts. Even now when I read my difficult child's FB posts about how she is sleeping by a lake or sitting in a Waffle House because she has nowhere to go, every instinct I have wants to run out, scoop her up and protect her. But if I do that, I am setting her back to where we started. It is only in living life miserably that is making her want to change anything. </p><p></p><p>I also remind her that there is a warm bed and food in rehab...hasn't worked, yet, but I try. Her response is simply, "I am not using". So I remind her rehab is also good for getting the head straight. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 548735"] I didn't have a difficult time. difficult child had been in and out of the house for a year and a half or so when we had our turning point. She was constantly leaving for days on end and coming home only to crash and eat. During the times she was home, she would make life completely miserable for everyone here - probably because she was coming down and she is a miserable, venom spewing B when she is crashing. She had claimed she was clean, begged to come home for Christmas, feeling sentimental and hopeful we allowed her to come back home. Things were great for a month and then I found a meth pipe in her room. I called her where she was and told her she could submit to treatment, or she could no longer live in this house. She chose the latter and only came back to grab some things. Here we are a year and a half later and she has survived on the streets this whole time. She is only just starting to get tired of the life. She is making steps to change things and I believe she is clean or at least was clean for a while when I saw her. But, she is just as addicted to a boyfriend that is zero good for her and that is not helping things... But, I digress. I do not see a signature so I have no idea how old your difficult child is. The law can help you remove them if it comes to that. As for you and husband being on the same page - that is imperative. My husband and I had our own addiction issues growing up. Because of this, my husband was always hard lined and always showed tough love. I was the soft one that relented all the time. One night my husband broke down in tears and told me how he felt - that we were growing apart and our lives seem to be lived solely for the kids and what would we have once they were gone? Everyone is right - kids grow and move out - you need to ensure you have a relationship with the one person that is a constant in your life. My marriage has been better than it ever has since that night. It woke me up and woke up my heart as corny as that sounds... I know how hard it is to go against all of your natural instincts. Even now when I read my difficult child's FB posts about how she is sleeping by a lake or sitting in a Waffle House because she has nowhere to go, every instinct I have wants to run out, scoop her up and protect her. But if I do that, I am setting her back to where we started. It is only in living life miserably that is making her want to change anything. I also remind her that there is a warm bed and food in rehab...hasn't worked, yet, but I try. Her response is simply, "I am not using". So I remind her rehab is also good for getting the head straight. :) [/QUOTE]
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