Oh, Buddy.
I can't give you answers, but how about if I chop up your post and feed it back in bits?
This is a positive item on your plan. It may or may not be a fit - but, it is a "reasonable option" to spend time and effort checking into. And that is tomorrow - not next week.
Two takes on this...
- She is probably wanting you to push them and see if they trip themselves up. There's that grey area - which is where you are right now - and as long as they don't REALLY mess up, its hard to pin them down. This applies not just to the current school, but to the whole school division. They are scared, and don't know what to do next or what to try next... there are no easy answers (you already know that!) but they won't admit it.
- You probably need to run every step past the attorney now. Need to find ways to capture, document, gather steam...
Who are "they"? school? home psychiatrist? attorney?
School is trying to push him over the edge. "Here" = all his other activities? Is there any way to get his Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers to "drop you a note" about how he is doing? Any others who are involved who can comment on paper, send an email - anything? Because its important to document this stuff. Take videos of him at horse therapy, or outside with his scooter and sharing, and so on.
{{hugs}}
