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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 368159" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>JJJ - thank you wasn't adopted, but he came up with a similar "solution" when he was 12 (had just returned from 3 years in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #1). He wanted to be put up for adoption because he just knew he'd be fine in a different family. His CM was simply *fabulous* in her response, esp since she got no warning this was coming. Her jaw dropped, her eyes bugged out of her head, and she asked him point-blank exactly who in their right mind he thought was going to adopt him. She listed off the behaviors, the hospitalizations, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stay, the heck our family had been thru up to that point... and then just stared at him. I could've just hugged her. Huge reality check.</p><p></p><p>My guess would be that Kanga's got zero say in this. There's no way there's a foster setting that is even remotely equipped to deal with her. She's got the grant, she's got the placement, she's got a family who have hung in there and continue to support her in spite of her wishes. I don't think there's any possible way DCFS wants to take on the full responsibility of Kanga. </p><p></p><p>I have to admit, I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that conversation though. "My parents set ground rules, advocate for me, try to prevent me from making poor choices, and have obtained the very best placement possible for me given my mental health issues and dangerous behaviors... please put me back in the system so I can have free rein." Sigh.... these kids are exhausting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 368159, member: 8"] JJJ - thank you wasn't adopted, but he came up with a similar "solution" when he was 12 (had just returned from 3 years in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #1). He wanted to be put up for adoption because he just knew he'd be fine in a different family. His CM was simply *fabulous* in her response, esp since she got no warning this was coming. Her jaw dropped, her eyes bugged out of her head, and she asked him point-blank exactly who in their right mind he thought was going to adopt him. She listed off the behaviors, the hospitalizations, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stay, the heck our family had been thru up to that point... and then just stared at him. I could've just hugged her. Huge reality check. My guess would be that Kanga's got zero say in this. There's no way there's a foster setting that is even remotely equipped to deal with her. She's got the grant, she's got the placement, she's got a family who have hung in there and continue to support her in spite of her wishes. I don't think there's any possible way DCFS wants to take on the full responsibility of Kanga. I have to admit, I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that conversation though. "My parents set ground rules, advocate for me, try to prevent me from making poor choices, and have obtained the very best placement possible for me given my mental health issues and dangerous behaviors... please put me back in the system so I can have free rein." Sigh.... these kids are exhausting. [/QUOTE]
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