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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 495465" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I hope your husband gets over that quilt quickly. I must have misunderstood because I thought you told me his treatment counselor told him he was not an addict and so did the sober house director, that he used drugs to mask other things. He is an addict. I hear what you are saying about the problems that existed before the drugs. I came to this board when my difficult child was 7 years old so trust me I understand. She defined the word "defiance." And while I would never say all her problems are solved now, so so many of them were resolved when she stopped drinking/drugs. It was almost as if she was an alocholic in her early years long befoe she started drinking and the drinking just made it official. While she still has areas in her life that she needs to work on, the drinking/drug problem had to be addressed first. Without that nothing else would change.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are realistic about the drinking because this girl did not leave those alcohol bottles behind for her next visit, unless all of them were empty in which case it's even more unlikely he didn't drink. I remember the last relapse my difficult child had and she told me she drank half a beer, as if half a beer would make me feel better. I don't believe that at all. I'm wondering why he didn't make an attempt to get rid of the empties. If they brought them all in why couldn't they bring them all out when she left. Was he hoping they would find them?</p><p></p><p>I don't mean to sound harsh but he is so much like my difficult child it is scarey. And my difficult child would pull the same thing and I got so angry with her, blowing yet another opportunity for help. She is an addict, plain and simple, and she has to start seeing herself that way in order to survive.</p><p></p><p>I think you are right, your son needs to be homeless for a while. I got the pleading texts too. Sometimes int he middle of the night all I would get is "please". It ripped my heart out, made my physically ill. I sobbed uncontrollably and asked how much more we could be expected to take. I dreaded answering the phone knowing it could be telling me she was dead. </p><p></p><p>I am pulling for your son to accept that he can't do this alone and decide he wants to change.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 495465, member: 59"] I hope your husband gets over that quilt quickly. I must have misunderstood because I thought you told me his treatment counselor told him he was not an addict and so did the sober house director, that he used drugs to mask other things. He is an addict. I hear what you are saying about the problems that existed before the drugs. I came to this board when my difficult child was 7 years old so trust me I understand. She defined the word "defiance." And while I would never say all her problems are solved now, so so many of them were resolved when she stopped drinking/drugs. It was almost as if she was an alocholic in her early years long befoe she started drinking and the drinking just made it official. While she still has areas in her life that she needs to work on, the drinking/drug problem had to be addressed first. Without that nothing else would change. I'm glad you are realistic about the drinking because this girl did not leave those alcohol bottles behind for her next visit, unless all of them were empty in which case it's even more unlikely he didn't drink. I remember the last relapse my difficult child had and she told me she drank half a beer, as if half a beer would make me feel better. I don't believe that at all. I'm wondering why he didn't make an attempt to get rid of the empties. If they brought them all in why couldn't they bring them all out when she left. Was he hoping they would find them? I don't mean to sound harsh but he is so much like my difficult child it is scarey. And my difficult child would pull the same thing and I got so angry with her, blowing yet another opportunity for help. She is an addict, plain and simple, and she has to start seeing herself that way in order to survive. I think you are right, your son needs to be homeless for a while. I got the pleading texts too. Sometimes int he middle of the night all I would get is "please". It ripped my heart out, made my physically ill. I sobbed uncontrollably and asked how much more we could be expected to take. I dreaded answering the phone knowing it could be telling me she was dead. I am pulling for your son to accept that he can't do this alone and decide he wants to change. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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