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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 495799"><p>I do work which does help.... the problem is in my job I deal with people in crisis a lot of the time, who are dealing with serious trauma... and yet this whole thing with my difficult child is traumatic too... so for awhile I was feeling like I was dealing with trauma at home and at work!! I finally decided I just couldn't be feeling trauma all the time so I cut my hours at work which has really helped. It helps me be at work when I am at work and leave it when I am not. So having some time at home to relax and do other things is really good for me.... but right in the moment because we are feeling the crisis of difficult child I am having problems just being alone and home. Plus sometimes at work I deal with people who are also dealing with difficult adult children... that hits too close to home. Luckily that is not the case most of the time.</p><p></p><p>So I am about to try and get some stuff done around the house while blasting some old time favorite music....</p><p></p><p>And Nancy I was worried about heroin before you mentioned it. You didn't make me worry about it, just made me think about a worry that is already there. I know my son has snorted it before... and he is in a place where there are a lot of recovery programd but also a lot of drug addicts. I know him and if he is using again (which is likely) he will use whatever he can get his hands on. So my fear is that he is only steps away from heroin use. Hopefully I am thinking the worst and that actually he is thinking about what a mess he has gotten himself into and how to get out of it.</p><p></p><p>I have been checking his phone records and I am not seeing much to give me hope... but the calls are often a day behind. </p><p></p><p>I know I just kind of need to stop thinking about him which of course feels somewhat impossible. We are going to dinner with some good friends tonight who also have a son in a similar situatoin so at least I can talk about it. And tomorrow I hope to just go to the movies. Distraction helps a lot.</p><p></p><p>I wish I lost weight when I worried.....<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I tend to turn to food for comfort which I don't want to do this time around.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 495799"] I do work which does help.... the problem is in my job I deal with people in crisis a lot of the time, who are dealing with serious trauma... and yet this whole thing with my difficult child is traumatic too... so for awhile I was feeling like I was dealing with trauma at home and at work!! I finally decided I just couldn't be feeling trauma all the time so I cut my hours at work which has really helped. It helps me be at work when I am at work and leave it when I am not. So having some time at home to relax and do other things is really good for me.... but right in the moment because we are feeling the crisis of difficult child I am having problems just being alone and home. Plus sometimes at work I deal with people who are also dealing with difficult adult children... that hits too close to home. Luckily that is not the case most of the time. So I am about to try and get some stuff done around the house while blasting some old time favorite music.... And Nancy I was worried about heroin before you mentioned it. You didn't make me worry about it, just made me think about a worry that is already there. I know my son has snorted it before... and he is in a place where there are a lot of recovery programd but also a lot of drug addicts. I know him and if he is using again (which is likely) he will use whatever he can get his hands on. So my fear is that he is only steps away from heroin use. Hopefully I am thinking the worst and that actually he is thinking about what a mess he has gotten himself into and how to get out of it. I have been checking his phone records and I am not seeing much to give me hope... but the calls are often a day behind. I know I just kind of need to stop thinking about him which of course feels somewhat impossible. We are going to dinner with some good friends tonight who also have a son in a similar situatoin so at least I can talk about it. And tomorrow I hope to just go to the movies. Distraction helps a lot. I wish I lost weight when I worried.....:) I tend to turn to food for comfort which I don't want to do this time around. TL [/QUOTE]
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