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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 388531" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Katya, we were told that our addicted children will act out with the parent they trust not to reject them. As parents, I think we need to remember that when our kids are, or have recently been, free of drugs, they are in even more pain than we are. There is no cushion then, between themselves and what they have done to their lives. </p><p></p><p>It must be such a hopeless feeling.</p><p></p><p>It is so hard to experience compassion for the kids when we are angry and worried to death about them. But, if we can find our way to that place where we act appropriately toward them (no more willingly pulling the wool over our own eyes) without judging them based on what we see, but on who we know them to be in their hears, it gets a little easier.</p><p></p><p>Wishing well, Katya.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p><p></p><p>P.S. The Serenity Prayer helped me when I was too worried to sleep. The site moderator at that time (Suz) told me to read it until I got it. I did, and it helped. Here it is, for you:</p><p></p><p>God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change</p><p>The Courage to change the things I can</p><p>And the Wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>I would repeat it over and over. It's short enough to remember without frustration, and it got me through many horrible nights.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 388531, member: 1721"] Katya, we were told that our addicted children will act out with the parent they trust not to reject them. As parents, I think we need to remember that when our kids are, or have recently been, free of drugs, they are in even more pain than we are. There is no cushion then, between themselves and what they have done to their lives. It must be such a hopeless feeling. It is so hard to experience compassion for the kids when we are angry and worried to death about them. But, if we can find our way to that place where we act appropriately toward them (no more willingly pulling the wool over our own eyes) without judging them based on what we see, but on who we know them to be in their hears, it gets a little easier. Wishing well, Katya. Barbara P.S. The Serenity Prayer helped me when I was too worried to sleep. The site moderator at that time (Suz) told me to read it until I got it. I did, and it helped. Here it is, for you: God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change The Courage to change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference. I would repeat it over and over. It's short enough to remember without frustration, and it got me through many horrible nights. [/QUOTE]
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