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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 617152" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Hopeful...I agree with what the others wrote. Look at yourself, at him, and at your house...this isn't working. It works better for him than the other options do (managing on his own) so HE isn't going to change it, he is just going to struggle against the parts he doesn't like (rules, like all our difficult child's) while persisting at the parts he does like (living at home for free). He won't change it. You must. 24 is too old to be living at home, illness, slowness, ADHD, bipolar, sleep paralysis or not. You owe it to yourself to be independent of your adult child. You owe it to him to finish your parenting task and let him know that you expect him to stand on his own two feet.</p><p></p><p>Its really hard.</p><p></p><p>But the alternative is to live as you are doing for a long long time. Then eventually something will happen to you, and he'll be 50 instead of 24, and he still won't have figured out how to stand on his own. You will have done no one a favor when that happens. </p><p></p><p>Sorry.</p><p>I do feel for you, I'm just feeling a bit battle bruised myself lately, so I may sound brusque.</p><p></p><p>Echo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 617152, member: 17269"] Hopeful...I agree with what the others wrote. Look at yourself, at him, and at your house...this isn't working. It works better for him than the other options do (managing on his own) so HE isn't going to change it, he is just going to struggle against the parts he doesn't like (rules, like all our difficult child's) while persisting at the parts he does like (living at home for free). He won't change it. You must. 24 is too old to be living at home, illness, slowness, ADHD, bipolar, sleep paralysis or not. You owe it to yourself to be independent of your adult child. You owe it to him to finish your parenting task and let him know that you expect him to stand on his own two feet. Its really hard. But the alternative is to live as you are doing for a long long time. Then eventually something will happen to you, and he'll be 50 instead of 24, and he still won't have figured out how to stand on his own. You will have done no one a favor when that happens. Sorry. I do feel for you, I'm just feeling a bit battle bruised myself lately, so I may sound brusque. Echo. [/QUOTE]
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