I was in denial for a long time regarding my son's diagnosis. When I was told to read up on bipolar i read thinks like hallucinations, etc. It scared me and I said this is not my son. He did not have them, as far as I know. He was diagnosed ADHD in 2nd grade I think and that was about all I could handle. He was diagnosed at 12 with bipolar but unfortunately the docs I were involved with also said he was epileptic which turned out to be completely false which added to my disbelief of his bipolar diagnosis. At 16, while in an intensive outpatient rehab, he was once again diagnosed bipolar. I took it with a grain of salt. I think inside I hoped he would grow out of this behavior. He's 24 and, well, that does not seem to have happened, although i think he might be a little better than before, but what age am I really comparing to? I feel like I am starting this from the beginning and need assistance. His behavior is somewhat odd and questionable. Simple things as a parent, seem to upset him and he has never accepted authority. Just a little while ago I told him I don't want him working tomorrow, if the opportunity arises (which is rare) because it is suppose to be so cold. He was totally insulted, how dare I tell him such a think.. After all, he is a 'grown man'! It seems when ever I try to give him parental direction or advise, he shuns me and says he won't discuss any further. (this is where I fell he has grown up - he used to argue unbearable with me). He moved back home a month ago. Has worked only one day since, will not take a job that is 'below him' but has no problem spending my money or taking from me. I will give him, he shoveled today, before it would have been pulling teeth, another sign of growing up. I was talking to a friend yesterday and he said he is having a hard time watching what is happening from afar. He said he thinks my son is taking advantage of me and I am teaching him this behavior of not be responsible for himself. I understand what he is saying, but my son has also agreed and is looking forward to his doctor appointment later this month. Not currently on medications, and does not want to take any, seeing this doctor regarding his sleep disorder. He is an insomniac and only alcohol helps him to sleep, although it doesn't and he is often drunk when I wake up. The reason my friend is saying these things is because I had rules for when he moved back in and he has broken them all. (1) no lying (2) no hard alcohol (3) no smoking in the house, plus since he has moved in I added no candles because he leaves them burning and falls asleep. My sister said I can't expect him to 'behave' while not on medications but it is positive that he is willing to go to he doctor. He is just so stubborn I am not sure he will accept medication. He had a dream that an old woman was in his room, ragged and twitting, her dress changing colors as she twitched This scared him terrible. When he googled he found the 'old hag dream' and sent me a picture of this woman whom he said is who he saw. He swears he was awake but could not move his body. Is this sleep paralysis? Did he hallucinate or is this a common dream? Is he worse then I thought, is he doing well. I don't know any more and not sure what to do?