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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 660955" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have a few suggestions, but they may not be immediately helpful.</p><p></p><p>Has anyone tried a gluten free, casein free diet with him for a full 6-8 weeks? gluten-free, casein-free doesn't always help, but if it hasn't been fully tried, it may be worthwhile. It is a lot easier now, too, with all the actually good tasting products out there. I don't know why, but some kids respond like magic when they didn't get a lot of help from anything else. It doesn't change his medications either, just his diet options. You do have to work to keep him out of other foods though.</p><p></p><p>Has he been given any evaluation or treatment for sensory integration disorder? It may not be a magic bullet, but the sensory diet can give him ways to cope with his overwhelming anxiety, excess energy, etc... other than hurting other people. To learn more about it, read, "The Out of Sync Child" and to find activities that will help, "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun". I would get the first from the library and buy the Has Fun book. Why? It is truly FUN for the entire family, and can get messy. He will lead you to the activities that he enjoys and help him, so you don't need a full diagnosis to use the book. Our entire family would ask to do the activities, and so would the neighbors - even the parents came to get involved. The book also has ways to find cheaper supplies and ways to do things because OTs don't make much $$. It is amazing and could really help, esp over the summer.</p><p></p><p>There is more going on here with him. THis does not sound like just ADHD, Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), etc... I don't believe in ODD because I think it is a symptom of other problems and when they are figured out, the ODD goes away. I think a neuropsychiatric evaluation that takes 6-10 hours over several sessions is in order, and may help you figure out what the problem is. I also think that when he knows his biofather is out of his life for good, you will learn of abuse that breaks your heart, including seeing someone abused or threatened with a knife - possibly a pet or girlfriend or even himself or a sibling. At the very least, threats. Until he feels totally safe from that man, he cannot open up. I know that has to be very hard for you and your husband. </p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene, and "What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You" by Doug Riley. They are both excellent an very helpful and available used. I don't personally like Riley's "The Defiant Child" because I think that our kids are not so much defiant as unable to cope and behave. I believe that kids do well when they can, not when they want to. At least for the vast majority of the time. But that is me. Those first two books are incredibly helpful, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>I hope some of this helps. If you want resources on the gluten-free, casein-free diet, there are parents here who are amazingly helpful. I have some junk food recipes that are good, but gluten-free, casein-free never helped us. I do cook with my own homemade mixes, and with-o a lot of store prepared food, so I can help cut colors and preservatives out and make recipes into mixes if you would like that. I am also a major tightwad, so I can share tips for that also.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to our group. I hope we can help. I haven't met you before, and am sorry about that. Take only what helps, leave the rest. At least for what I say - I expect this and welcome it.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 660955, member: 1233"] I have a few suggestions, but they may not be immediately helpful. Has anyone tried a gluten free, casein free diet with him for a full 6-8 weeks? gluten-free, casein-free doesn't always help, but if it hasn't been fully tried, it may be worthwhile. It is a lot easier now, too, with all the actually good tasting products out there. I don't know why, but some kids respond like magic when they didn't get a lot of help from anything else. It doesn't change his medications either, just his diet options. You do have to work to keep him out of other foods though. Has he been given any evaluation or treatment for sensory integration disorder? It may not be a magic bullet, but the sensory diet can give him ways to cope with his overwhelming anxiety, excess energy, etc... other than hurting other people. To learn more about it, read, "The Out of Sync Child" and to find activities that will help, "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun". I would get the first from the library and buy the Has Fun book. Why? It is truly FUN for the entire family, and can get messy. He will lead you to the activities that he enjoys and help him, so you don't need a full diagnosis to use the book. Our entire family would ask to do the activities, and so would the neighbors - even the parents came to get involved. The book also has ways to find cheaper supplies and ways to do things because OTs don't make much $$. It is amazing and could really help, esp over the summer. There is more going on here with him. THis does not sound like just ADHD, Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), etc... I don't believe in ODD because I think it is a symptom of other problems and when they are figured out, the ODD goes away. I think a neuropsychiatric evaluation that takes 6-10 hours over several sessions is in order, and may help you figure out what the problem is. I also think that when he knows his biofather is out of his life for good, you will learn of abuse that breaks your heart, including seeing someone abused or threatened with a knife - possibly a pet or girlfriend or even himself or a sibling. At the very least, threats. Until he feels totally safe from that man, he cannot open up. I know that has to be very hard for you and your husband. I strongly suggest you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene, and "What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You" by Doug Riley. They are both excellent an very helpful and available used. I don't personally like Riley's "The Defiant Child" because I think that our kids are not so much defiant as unable to cope and behave. I believe that kids do well when they can, not when they want to. At least for the vast majority of the time. But that is me. Those first two books are incredibly helpful, in my opinion. I hope some of this helps. If you want resources on the gluten-free, casein-free diet, there are parents here who are amazingly helpful. I have some junk food recipes that are good, but gluten-free, casein-free never helped us. I do cook with my own homemade mixes, and with-o a lot of store prepared food, so I can help cut colors and preservatives out and make recipes into mixes if you would like that. I am also a major tightwad, so I can share tips for that also. Welcome to our group. I hope we can help. I haven't met you before, and am sorry about that. Take only what helps, leave the rest. At least for what I say - I expect this and welcome it. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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