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<blockquote data-quote="Lioness" data-source="post: 662116" data-attributes="member: 18827"><p>Copa She too is my daughter and I love her with all my heart. She is smart, funny, loving when she chooses, an absolute stunning beauty, academic and a delight. I miss her this is why Iam getting so angry and upset. But she can be cruel, vindictive and lashes out and the lashing out is usually at me. She has admitted in the past that she does it to me because she can and she knows that I will always love her. I have never told her that I think she has borderline or maybe narcisstic personality disorder. I have everything about these disorders and she seems to have these traits. I would never, ever say this to her or anyone else. With regards to responsibility for the break down of our relationship I fo take responsibility for some of this. When she was 12 years old her Dad left. She hated and blamed me even when he admitted to her that he was to blame. It was a terrible time and she was very difficult & challenging. At times i did yell at her and ground her but she did worse she attacked me physically, stole from me and made everyone's life a misery. Yet I would always try and reach out to her but she was hysterical when angry. We all would tiptoe around her moodswings. Yet I still tried s hard with her and it was never enough. Our relationship wasnt good at this time. But I never gave up on her. We seemed to be ok the last few years until this year when she started with yet another therapist on her own and coupled with an argument she had with her husband she started on me again. Whenever things aren't going well she lashes out at me. The family therapist we saw together for one session said to her that she is used to using me as an emotional punch bag and that she needs to try and change this pattern. My diff daughter of course then decided she didn't want to go anymore as the therapist could see through it all. Iam by no means a perfect mother but I have always done my best. I told my daughter that Iam sorry if I have ever hurt her in the past by being angry or snapping at her. It was never intentional. I told her that I will always love her. It wasn't enough for her nothing is. I will try to rise above this but am finding it hard as I have always gone above and beyond and she takes advantage of me because she knows no matter what I would always be there for her. I know that you are coming from a good place but believe me I love my daughter. If I didnt I would find this very easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lioness, post: 662116, member: 18827"] Copa She too is my daughter and I love her with all my heart. She is smart, funny, loving when she chooses, an absolute stunning beauty, academic and a delight. I miss her this is why Iam getting so angry and upset. But she can be cruel, vindictive and lashes out and the lashing out is usually at me. She has admitted in the past that she does it to me because she can and she knows that I will always love her. I have never told her that I think she has borderline or maybe narcisstic personality disorder. I have everything about these disorders and she seems to have these traits. I would never, ever say this to her or anyone else. With regards to responsibility for the break down of our relationship I fo take responsibility for some of this. When she was 12 years old her Dad left. She hated and blamed me even when he admitted to her that he was to blame. It was a terrible time and she was very difficult & challenging. At times i did yell at her and ground her but she did worse she attacked me physically, stole from me and made everyone's life a misery. Yet I would always try and reach out to her but she was hysterical when angry. We all would tiptoe around her moodswings. Yet I still tried s hard with her and it was never enough. Our relationship wasnt good at this time. But I never gave up on her. We seemed to be ok the last few years until this year when she started with yet another therapist on her own and coupled with an argument she had with her husband she started on me again. Whenever things aren't going well she lashes out at me. The family therapist we saw together for one session said to her that she is used to using me as an emotional punch bag and that she needs to try and change this pattern. My diff daughter of course then decided she didn't want to go anymore as the therapist could see through it all. Iam by no means a perfect mother but I have always done my best. I told my daughter that Iam sorry if I have ever hurt her in the past by being angry or snapping at her. It was never intentional. I told her that I will always love her. It wasn't enough for her nothing is. I will try to rise above this but am finding it hard as I have always gone above and beyond and she takes advantage of me because she knows no matter what I would always be there for her. I know that you are coming from a good place but believe me I love my daughter. If I didnt I would find this very easy. [/QUOTE]
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