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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 646444" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That is not true.</p><p></p><p>You protected your children from the kinds of hurt you had been exposed to</p><p>by staying with your husband against what would have been your preference had you had only yourself to think about.</p><p></p><p>These are rare and courageous acts.</p><p></p><p>I am very sure you thought about leaving him more than once.</p><p></p><p>The betrayal here is your husband's. Real men, good men, do not take advantage of the positions their wives and dependent children find themselves in. To abuse and attempt to control you when he had to know you would not leave him because you were determined to protect your children from the kinds of abuse you suffered as a child at the hands of other bad men was a very, very wrong thing.</p><p></p><p>A very bad thing.</p><p></p><p>Your husband knows what he is doing.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I believe that when we judge one another based on sexuality or race ~ or pretty much anything, really ~ what we are really showing the world is that we are weak and ugly people, people who will use anyone or anything to bully and victimize in order to feel better ~ better than the other guy that is ~ about who they are, themselves.</p><p></p><p>It's a pretty cheap shot. Things like this have been going on forever because there have been weak or cowardly people, forever </p><p></p><p>Your brother is wrong.</p><p></p><p>Again, you have reacted with bravery and courage. You chose to go it alone rather than betray your child.</p><p></p><p>You are an amazingly strong woman. You just don't see yourself that way, yet.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>In my own life, I have learned that when I give my power away ~ whether it is the power of self perception or any other meanness to myself, any other way I am trapped and allow it out of fear ~ that is when I cannot be calm.</p><p></p><p>Those feelings, I believe, are there to help you be stronger and recreate yourself and your life. Your children are adults, now.</p><p></p><p>You can no longer protect them.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am so sorry this is happening to you. You are here with us, now. Little by little, things will begin to feel differently to you. There will be better days and worse times but on the whole, you will begin to feel stronger, now that you are not alone with it, anymore.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you are here with us.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 646444, member: 17461"] That is not true. You protected your children from the kinds of hurt you had been exposed to by staying with your husband against what would have been your preference had you had only yourself to think about. These are rare and courageous acts. I am very sure you thought about leaving him more than once. The betrayal here is your husband's. Real men, good men, do not take advantage of the positions their wives and dependent children find themselves in. To abuse and attempt to control you when he had to know you would not leave him because you were determined to protect your children from the kinds of abuse you suffered as a child at the hands of other bad men was a very, very wrong thing. A very bad thing. Your husband knows what he is doing. I believe that when we judge one another based on sexuality or race ~ or pretty much anything, really ~ what we are really showing the world is that we are weak and ugly people, people who will use anyone or anything to bully and victimize in order to feel better ~ better than the other guy that is ~ about who they are, themselves. It's a pretty cheap shot. Things like this have been going on forever because there have been weak or cowardly people, forever Your brother is wrong. Again, you have reacted with bravery and courage. You chose to go it alone rather than betray your child. You are an amazingly strong woman. You just don't see yourself that way, yet. In my own life, I have learned that when I give my power away ~ whether it is the power of self perception or any other meanness to myself, any other way I am trapped and allow it out of fear ~ that is when I cannot be calm. Those feelings, I believe, are there to help you be stronger and recreate yourself and your life. Your children are adults, now. You can no longer protect them. I am so sorry this is happening to you. You are here with us, now. Little by little, things will begin to feel differently to you. There will be better days and worse times but on the whole, you will begin to feel stronger, now that you are not alone with it, anymore. I am so glad you are here with us. :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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