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<blockquote data-quote="ducky8888" data-source="post: 602418" data-attributes="member: 15714"><p>Jules, </p><p></p><p>What I have noticed with our difficult child is that he is extremely defiant. If there is nothing in the task for him he refuses to do it (i.e. we got a new trampoline and I said no one is jumping until.... he was very quick to get stuff done, although too quick and it had to be redone several times). What I have found that works for him most of the time is walking away. This is one of my biggest struggles. I want to fight until my request is started. For example, if I want the trash taken out, I will say "Hey, I need you to take the trash out." the response is always "No!" sometimes followed by "my brother hasnt..., its unfair..... i dont want to....etc." So what I then do is, there is always something he wants/wants to do, so i use that and I say "thats fine, if the trash is not taken out, you will not be able to...." then I stop. I dont mention it again. Sometimes he throws a ft about it, but he usually gives in and I see him going to take it out. The hard part for me is that I want to see action as soon as I make the request, and if it isnt getting done right now, I get irritated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ducky8888, post: 602418, member: 15714"] Jules, What I have noticed with our difficult child is that he is extremely defiant. If there is nothing in the task for him he refuses to do it (i.e. we got a new trampoline and I said no one is jumping until.... he was very quick to get stuff done, although too quick and it had to be redone several times). What I have found that works for him most of the time is walking away. This is one of my biggest struggles. I want to fight until my request is started. For example, if I want the trash taken out, I will say "Hey, I need you to take the trash out." the response is always "No!" sometimes followed by "my brother hasnt..., its unfair..... i dont want to....etc." So what I then do is, there is always something he wants/wants to do, so i use that and I say "thats fine, if the trash is not taken out, you will not be able to...." then I stop. I dont mention it again. Sometimes he throws a ft about it, but he usually gives in and I see him going to take it out. The hard part for me is that I want to see action as soon as I make the request, and if it isnt getting done right now, I get irritated. [/QUOTE]
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