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<blockquote data-quote="hexemaus2" data-source="post: 192108" data-attributes="member: 4560"><p>Awe Starbie. My wonderfully twistedly hilarious Starbie. How I've missed your sharp sense of humor. You never cease to make me smile - even in my darkest hours and I absolutely love you for it. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> (by the way, difficult child 1 still remembers "that lady" who taught her to think of herself as "unique" instead of a "freak." <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" />) </p><p> </p><p>The issue with the kids talking to the school is somewhat of a non-issue. I am their school, since they are all homeschooled. But definitely good to see both sides of the idea for someone else coming along in a similar situation. It's always good to be able to see both sides of the coin before you flip it. </p><p> </p><p>I did somewhat stumble on a possible different avenue to take. I got a call today from the Sgt who initially handled the whole affair at the police department Tuesday night. He came in on his day off to make sure the reports and statements were finished so they will get to Department of Juvenile Justice first thing in the morning - in case someone there might be able to do something. In getting things together, he realized I had not signed my statement so he called and asked me to come up to the station. (Our house is only two blocks from the station.) </p><p> </p><p>He had already left, but I talked with the lady in charge of dispatch for the shift. (The sgt. left the paperwork with her for me to sign.) We talked for nearly two hours. Her mother was Bipolar and she had cared for her for years through treatments, several strokes, etc. She understood the situation we're in, having lived through something very similar herself - fighting the MH system all the way for her "combative" mother. She even called an officer back to the station to see what insight he could give - which wasn't much when we both realized that particular officer wasn't the best choice. (He kept insisting that the system really does work...we both wound up laughing at him for his "simpleton" outlook on "the system." lol.) </p><p> </p><p>The conversation with her, however, was actually quite productive. She gave me resource numbers from their (the police department's) rolodex for various state-level agencies. The "back door" names and numbers that we peons never get access to, if you know what I mean. Talk about a valuable little list!! (It will let me cut right through those irritating gate keepers that answer the "public" numbers, but never really get you to anyone useful.) She has also set me up with a meeting with the Captain and the Chief of Police for first thing in the morning. After explaining to her (the short version) everything we've done, tried, agencies we've been bounced between, etc., she said the same thing everyone else has said. Is there no one who will DO SOMETHING for this kid??!! We're hoping that the Captain and the Chief might be able to make some calls for me in the morning to get something moving.</p><p> </p><p>She was honest in that she can't guarantee that they can do anything, but it's definitely worth a try. At least someone, somewhere is willing to give it a shot and not just push us off onto the next poor state employee somewhere. Perhaps one of the two just calling the staff at the hospital (since it IS a state-run, state-funded children's hospital) might push them into doing more. (Especially given that she looked up our address in the PD's computer to find 22 reports in the last 2 years!!! 22 times I've had to have officers out to the house to help me with difficult child 2!!! Wow! I didn't even realize there were quite that many.) If not the hospital, they can surely call Department of Juvenile Justice and put some pressure on someone there. A call from the Chief of Police might carry more weight than just a call from some kid's mom. And they'll have the ability to fax all those reports over to Department of Juvenile Justice to help make our case. </p><p> </p><p>If nothing else, maybe they can help get the powers that be at Department of Juvenile Justice to help us clue the hospital in on just how dire the situation really is. At the very least, I can get copies of the reports (which, since they are in reference to a juvenile, are usually only released to Department of Juvenile Justice) to help bolster MY own case in front of a judge, should the hospital follow through with their threats to have me charged with abandonment. (I did find out that the hospital where difficult child 2 is has the ability to refer AND transport him to a state-run mental health facility down in south Georgia that IS set up for longer-term care - not the best option, but at least we would all be safe and have more time to find him more suitable placement. That little bit of knowledge gives me a counter offer, of sorts, to challenge the hospital's decision to discharge him.) </p><p> </p><p>We'll see what happens tomorrow morning. For all I know, they won't be able to do anything. But at least for a few hours tonight, I have a little hope that maybe someone might actually get off their <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> for a change and help us before it's too late. </p><p> </p><p>I'm still calling our lawyers in the morning - and I surely will be asking about Star's idea to file that petition. Whatever I have to do, I'll do. I'm throwing all my eggs in the frying pan in the morning - we'll see which yolks break and which ones stay whole, if you know what I mean. The more options the better. </p><p> </p><p>My hopes might very well wind up dashed tomorrow morning...but at least for tonight there is a glimmer of hope. I'll take whatever I can at this point. At least I might be able to sleep tonight so I have the ya-yas to go to war with the system tomorrow. </p><p> </p><p>Thank you all so much for being here. The boards have always been such a comfort to me when all else seems turned upside down. I've learned so much over the years from all the wonderful members here - mostly how to keep my head and stand my ground no matter what. That kind of strength has to be quite simply the most valuable asset the parent of a difficult child can have. Thank you all for helping me to shine my warrior mom suit and sharpen my sword for the battle ahead of me tomorrow.</p><p> </p><p>I may well be behind bars before the day is over, but knowing and being reassured that I'm doing the right thing will make it all bearable. Hopefully, it won't go to such an extreme. I pray it won't, but we have plans in place for just in case it does. I have someone to pick up the other kids and keep them until whenever I get out. I have several options for folks to post my bail. And I have copies of everything - log books with contact names, numbers, and dates of conversations, my parent report, police reports, medical records, etc. - ready to drop off at the lawyer's office (not to mention copies that have already been sent to my parents so they have them, just in case.) </p><p> </p><p>This is one warrior mom who simply refuses to take no for an answer anymore. Not without putting up one hellova fight!!</p><p> </p><p>Thank you again, guys. You all mean so very much to me. I promise not to stay away for so long again. I need you guys too much. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hexemaus2, post: 192108, member: 4560"] Awe Starbie. My wonderfully twistedly hilarious Starbie. How I've missed your sharp sense of humor. You never cease to make me smile - even in my darkest hours and I absolutely love you for it. :) (by the way, difficult child 1 still remembers "that lady" who taught her to think of herself as "unique" instead of a "freak." :happy:) The issue with the kids talking to the school is somewhat of a non-issue. I am their school, since they are all homeschooled. But definitely good to see both sides of the idea for someone else coming along in a similar situation. It's always good to be able to see both sides of the coin before you flip it. I did somewhat stumble on a possible different avenue to take. I got a call today from the Sgt who initially handled the whole affair at the police department Tuesday night. He came in on his day off to make sure the reports and statements were finished so they will get to Department of Juvenile Justice first thing in the morning - in case someone there might be able to do something. In getting things together, he realized I had not signed my statement so he called and asked me to come up to the station. (Our house is only two blocks from the station.) He had already left, but I talked with the lady in charge of dispatch for the shift. (The sgt. left the paperwork with her for me to sign.) We talked for nearly two hours. Her mother was Bipolar and she had cared for her for years through treatments, several strokes, etc. She understood the situation we're in, having lived through something very similar herself - fighting the MH system all the way for her "combative" mother. She even called an officer back to the station to see what insight he could give - which wasn't much when we both realized that particular officer wasn't the best choice. (He kept insisting that the system really does work...we both wound up laughing at him for his "simpleton" outlook on "the system." lol.) The conversation with her, however, was actually quite productive. She gave me resource numbers from their (the police department's) rolodex for various state-level agencies. The "back door" names and numbers that we peons never get access to, if you know what I mean. Talk about a valuable little list!! (It will let me cut right through those irritating gate keepers that answer the "public" numbers, but never really get you to anyone useful.) She has also set me up with a meeting with the Captain and the Chief of Police for first thing in the morning. After explaining to her (the short version) everything we've done, tried, agencies we've been bounced between, etc., she said the same thing everyone else has said. Is there no one who will DO SOMETHING for this kid??!! We're hoping that the Captain and the Chief might be able to make some calls for me in the morning to get something moving. She was honest in that she can't guarantee that they can do anything, but it's definitely worth a try. At least someone, somewhere is willing to give it a shot and not just push us off onto the next poor state employee somewhere. Perhaps one of the two just calling the staff at the hospital (since it IS a state-run, state-funded children's hospital) might push them into doing more. (Especially given that she looked up our address in the PD's computer to find 22 reports in the last 2 years!!! 22 times I've had to have officers out to the house to help me with difficult child 2!!! Wow! I didn't even realize there were quite that many.) If not the hospital, they can surely call Department of Juvenile Justice and put some pressure on someone there. A call from the Chief of Police might carry more weight than just a call from some kid's mom. And they'll have the ability to fax all those reports over to Department of Juvenile Justice to help make our case. If nothing else, maybe they can help get the powers that be at Department of Juvenile Justice to help us clue the hospital in on just how dire the situation really is. At the very least, I can get copies of the reports (which, since they are in reference to a juvenile, are usually only released to Department of Juvenile Justice) to help bolster MY own case in front of a judge, should the hospital follow through with their threats to have me charged with abandonment. (I did find out that the hospital where difficult child 2 is has the ability to refer AND transport him to a state-run mental health facility down in south Georgia that IS set up for longer-term care - not the best option, but at least we would all be safe and have more time to find him more suitable placement. That little bit of knowledge gives me a counter offer, of sorts, to challenge the hospital's decision to discharge him.) We'll see what happens tomorrow morning. For all I know, they won't be able to do anything. But at least for a few hours tonight, I have a little hope that maybe someone might actually get off their :censored2: for a change and help us before it's too late. I'm still calling our lawyers in the morning - and I surely will be asking about Star's idea to file that petition. Whatever I have to do, I'll do. I'm throwing all my eggs in the frying pan in the morning - we'll see which yolks break and which ones stay whole, if you know what I mean. The more options the better. My hopes might very well wind up dashed tomorrow morning...but at least for tonight there is a glimmer of hope. I'll take whatever I can at this point. At least I might be able to sleep tonight so I have the ya-yas to go to war with the system tomorrow. Thank you all so much for being here. The boards have always been such a comfort to me when all else seems turned upside down. I've learned so much over the years from all the wonderful members here - mostly how to keep my head and stand my ground no matter what. That kind of strength has to be quite simply the most valuable asset the parent of a difficult child can have. Thank you all for helping me to shine my warrior mom suit and sharpen my sword for the battle ahead of me tomorrow. I may well be behind bars before the day is over, but knowing and being reassured that I'm doing the right thing will make it all bearable. Hopefully, it won't go to such an extreme. I pray it won't, but we have plans in place for just in case it does. I have someone to pick up the other kids and keep them until whenever I get out. I have several options for folks to post my bail. And I have copies of everything - log books with contact names, numbers, and dates of conversations, my parent report, police reports, medical records, etc. - ready to drop off at the lawyer's office (not to mention copies that have already been sent to my parents so they have them, just in case.) This is one warrior mom who simply refuses to take no for an answer anymore. Not without putting up one hellova fight!! Thank you again, guys. You all mean so very much to me. I promise not to stay away for so long again. I need you guys too much. :) [/QUOTE]
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