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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739737" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Drew I’m an aspie girl myself and struggled quite a bit at that age. If she Has even mild sensory processing issues the world can be very overwhelming. What I did learn with time is that the more I gave in to the desire to hide away from the world the harder it became. I wasn’t diagnosed until well into adulthood, and it was a huge relief to finally understand myself and my childhood. I’ve learned to embrace my quirks, work around some things and work through others. If she’s on the spectrum but high functioning enough that she hasn’t been diagnosed yet, she’s capable of doing the same. But it’s not easy. </p><p></p><p> I understand her desire to not be different than her peers and that’s probably why she’s resisting medications and treatments. That’s why I suggested trying to give her some more choice and control. </p><p></p><p>That said, whether is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or anxiety or something else entirely, she’s going to have to get out of her comfort zone. If she won’t get out of it on her own accord, you’re going to have to make her uncomfortable enough at home that she’s forced out. She’s still young and dependent on you, so that may mean taking away the laptop until she’s treatment compliant, if that’s the only thing she cares about. You can still pull the our house, our rules card. And if she’s unhappy enough with that, she’ll have to get out of her comfort zone in another way and figure out how to move out. </p><p></p><p>I probably wouldn’t pull that card unless she doesn’t get her act together with school this week. But if it comes to it and she does not go to classes, you can’t let her sit in her room unemployed and out of school. The longer she locks herself away in there the harder it will be for her. Do it with love, give her some options, but force her out of the comfort zone one way or another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739737, member: 23349"] Drew I’m an aspie girl myself and struggled quite a bit at that age. If she Has even mild sensory processing issues the world can be very overwhelming. What I did learn with time is that the more I gave in to the desire to hide away from the world the harder it became. I wasn’t diagnosed until well into adulthood, and it was a huge relief to finally understand myself and my childhood. I’ve learned to embrace my quirks, work around some things and work through others. If she’s on the spectrum but high functioning enough that she hasn’t been diagnosed yet, she’s capable of doing the same. But it’s not easy. I understand her desire to not be different than her peers and that’s probably why she’s resisting medications and treatments. That’s why I suggested trying to give her some more choice and control. That said, whether is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or anxiety or something else entirely, she’s going to have to get out of her comfort zone. If she won’t get out of it on her own accord, you’re going to have to make her uncomfortable enough at home that she’s forced out. She’s still young and dependent on you, so that may mean taking away the laptop until she’s treatment compliant, if that’s the only thing she cares about. You can still pull the our house, our rules card. And if she’s unhappy enough with that, she’ll have to get out of her comfort zone in another way and figure out how to move out. I probably wouldn’t pull that card unless she doesn’t get her act together with school this week. But if it comes to it and she does not go to classes, you can’t let her sit in her room unemployed and out of school. The longer she locks herself away in there the harder it will be for her. Do it with love, give her some options, but force her out of the comfort zone one way or another. [/QUOTE]
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