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<blockquote data-quote="ahhjeez" data-source="post: 739749" data-attributes="member: 16999"><p>It doesn't sound like defiance to me either. She sounds a bit like my son. My son is autistic and school has always been a struggle. His senior year in high school was horrific. He became so completely overwhelmed with the expectations facing him ie. college that he just shut down and became severely depressed. I immediately got him into therapy but his therapist just wasn't familiar with people on the spectrum and it didn't work out. What I ended up having to do was stopping everything. He was severely overwhelmed. His father and I decided to give him a year to recoup. In that time he was to work towards getting his driver's license and take an online class. That was it. We needed to reassess and go very, very slowly with him. He's now turning 20 in Oct. and will be starting community college tomorrow. He is ready to take his driver's test and will be scheduling an exam. I'll be driving him to school until he gets his license. He's made a ton of great strides, but it had to be on his time and he needs supports in most things that he does because it just doesn't come naturally to him. Just ordering his meal at Subway is stressful for him because he has to speak to someone. I would recommend a neuropsychological evaluation for your daughter. My son has had 3. An exam can take anywhere from 4-6 hours and are very comprehensive. We are also hooked up with an autism treatment center through a major hospital in our area. My son also applied for a program at his college that gives kids extra support when they need it like help emailing or talking to a professor. Help finding classes. Emotional supports. It's an amazing program and many, many colleges have them. I think your daughter is struggling with the next steps in life and if she is on the spectrum it doesn't surprise me. It's incredibly difficult for my son to navigate the world. It causes him intense anxiety that is both emotionally and physically exhausting. To give you an idea, my son had to go to an orientation at his school. It lasted 4 hours. He was dreading it, but went. He was so exhausted by it that he came home and fell asleep in the early afternoon and slept until the next day. Interactions take a ton out of him. My husband is also autistic and we have found that both him and my son can generally concentrate on one big thing at a time. For my husband, it's going to work. Once he comes home he's just had it. I tend to take care of the day to day stuff because he doesn't multi-task. My son is the same. It is taking an enormous amount of mental energy for him to go to school and get his license. I've found that I need to be very aware of when he's getting ready to hit the wall so to speak and try and break things down into steps for him. I help him, but I also encourage him to do things for himself on his own. I model life skills for him and have tried to set up a decent network of support for him. I'm sorry I rambled here. LOL. None of this may apply to your daughter. I think a good neuropsychologist evaluation. could be a good step. It would give a definitive diagnosis, plus workable suggestions for the future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ahhjeez, post: 739749, member: 16999"] It doesn't sound like defiance to me either. She sounds a bit like my son. My son is autistic and school has always been a struggle. His senior year in high school was horrific. He became so completely overwhelmed with the expectations facing him ie. college that he just shut down and became severely depressed. I immediately got him into therapy but his therapist just wasn't familiar with people on the spectrum and it didn't work out. What I ended up having to do was stopping everything. He was severely overwhelmed. His father and I decided to give him a year to recoup. In that time he was to work towards getting his driver's license and take an online class. That was it. We needed to reassess and go very, very slowly with him. He's now turning 20 in Oct. and will be starting community college tomorrow. He is ready to take his driver's test and will be scheduling an exam. I'll be driving him to school until he gets his license. He's made a ton of great strides, but it had to be on his time and he needs supports in most things that he does because it just doesn't come naturally to him. Just ordering his meal at Subway is stressful for him because he has to speak to someone. I would recommend a neuropsychological evaluation for your daughter. My son has had 3. An exam can take anywhere from 4-6 hours and are very comprehensive. We are also hooked up with an autism treatment center through a major hospital in our area. My son also applied for a program at his college that gives kids extra support when they need it like help emailing or talking to a professor. Help finding classes. Emotional supports. It's an amazing program and many, many colleges have them. I think your daughter is struggling with the next steps in life and if she is on the spectrum it doesn't surprise me. It's incredibly difficult for my son to navigate the world. It causes him intense anxiety that is both emotionally and physically exhausting. To give you an idea, my son had to go to an orientation at his school. It lasted 4 hours. He was dreading it, but went. He was so exhausted by it that he came home and fell asleep in the early afternoon and slept until the next day. Interactions take a ton out of him. My husband is also autistic and we have found that both him and my son can generally concentrate on one big thing at a time. For my husband, it's going to work. Once he comes home he's just had it. I tend to take care of the day to day stuff because he doesn't multi-task. My son is the same. It is taking an enormous amount of mental energy for him to go to school and get his license. I've found that I need to be very aware of when he's getting ready to hit the wall so to speak and try and break things down into steps for him. I help him, but I also encourage him to do things for himself on his own. I model life skills for him and have tried to set up a decent network of support for him. I'm sorry I rambled here. LOL. None of this may apply to your daughter. I think a good neuropsychologist evaluation. could be a good step. It would give a definitive diagnosis, plus workable suggestions for the future. [/QUOTE]
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