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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 740428" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Drew I think Smithmom has a great suggestion there! It’s worth investigating, and as Smithmom says, if she resists thinking of herself as needing that kind of support you have the opportunity to tell her she needs to prove it. And if she does end up diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), major depression, or Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) it may open up additional supports that will help her over these next years. </p><p></p><p>I hope she gets going with the volunteer options soon and makes some progress towards getting out of the house for a bit most days. I would love to see her disengage from the constant game playing somewhat but I know that’s going to be a difficult battle. So you ended up not giving her the laptop then? She’s still using the computer in the common area? Having her a little less constantly present would take some pressure off - maybe she could take a laptop and go to a coffee shop or otherwise out of the house sometimes? Too much ‘togetherness’ can be tough on everyone sometimes! And it might be good for her to get out of the house and into the public in a low-key way. </p><p></p><p>How often are her therapy appointments? And are you seeing anyone to get some more strategies to try, either with or without your wife? </p><p></p><p>It’s so hard to know the difference between ‘can’t’ and ‘won’t’ with our difficult children as they make this transition to adulthood. Is she hiding behind a screen because she’s genuinely unable to get out there, due to anxiety, depression, or undeveloped social skills? Or is she simply addicted to the games or unwilling to put in an effort? I think it’s really hard to tell. Perhaps a combination of both. But it makes it so hard to know what the aappropriate response is, when to play hardball and when a more gentle and supportive touch is needed. </p><p></p><p>I agree with picking and choosing your battles right now, though I think I would make basic respect and consideration for others around her one of mine. </p><p></p><p>Let us know what kind of progress she makes this week. Wishing you all the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 740428, member: 23349"] Drew I think Smithmom has a great suggestion there! It’s worth investigating, and as Smithmom says, if she resists thinking of herself as needing that kind of support you have the opportunity to tell her she needs to prove it. And if she does end up diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), major depression, or Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) it may open up additional supports that will help her over these next years. I hope she gets going with the volunteer options soon and makes some progress towards getting out of the house for a bit most days. I would love to see her disengage from the constant game playing somewhat but I know that’s going to be a difficult battle. So you ended up not giving her the laptop then? She’s still using the computer in the common area? Having her a little less constantly present would take some pressure off - maybe she could take a laptop and go to a coffee shop or otherwise out of the house sometimes? Too much ‘togetherness’ can be tough on everyone sometimes! And it might be good for her to get out of the house and into the public in a low-key way. How often are her therapy appointments? And are you seeing anyone to get some more strategies to try, either with or without your wife? It’s so hard to know the difference between ‘can’t’ and ‘won’t’ with our difficult children as they make this transition to adulthood. Is she hiding behind a screen because she’s genuinely unable to get out there, due to anxiety, depression, or undeveloped social skills? Or is she simply addicted to the games or unwilling to put in an effort? I think it’s really hard to tell. Perhaps a combination of both. But it makes it so hard to know what the aappropriate response is, when to play hardball and when a more gentle and supportive touch is needed. I agree with picking and choosing your battles right now, though I think I would make basic respect and consideration for others around her one of mine. Let us know what kind of progress she makes this week. Wishing you all the best. [/QUOTE]
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