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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 741254" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>I agree with you SWOT that it’s time to change things up! I’ve been advocating for getting her out of her comfort zone the whole time. We can’t make it too easy for them. I’m just pointing out ‘getting tough’ by itself is no guarantee of results either. I think sometimes it’s easy to go too far the other direction when we are exasperated, and forget tough love has to include the love along with the tough. Supports and rewards along with consequences. It’s a really tough balance when they are pushing our last nerve and refusing to comply. And They are all unique, too. Obviously I’m in no position to judge or second guess anyone’s approach here. I think it’s tempting (for me at least) when we have older kids to project our own experiences here and see a chance to get things right we feel we did wrong. But I know my experiences may not actually apply here, and there is no way of knowing whether things would have turned out differently for mine if I could rewrite history. There are no cut and dry answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 741254, member: 23349"] I agree with you SWOT that it’s time to change things up! I’ve been advocating for getting her out of her comfort zone the whole time. We can’t make it too easy for them. I’m just pointing out ‘getting tough’ by itself is no guarantee of results either. I think sometimes it’s easy to go too far the other direction when we are exasperated, and forget tough love has to include the love along with the tough. Supports and rewards along with consequences. It’s a really tough balance when they are pushing our last nerve and refusing to comply. And They are all unique, too. Obviously I’m in no position to judge or second guess anyone’s approach here. I think it’s tempting (for me at least) when we have older kids to project our own experiences here and see a chance to get things right we feel we did wrong. But I know my experiences may not actually apply here, and there is no way of knowing whether things would have turned out differently for mine if I could rewrite history. There are no cut and dry answers. [/QUOTE]
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