Soaring, you are a beautiful woman, but this is a public board. Anyone can read the posts without being a member.
For privacy's sake, you should remove any identifying information, including your picture, from your posts.
Other than that, welcome to the board and best of luck with-your grands/kids. I would have them evaluated as soon as possible by a specialist in FASD so you have a better idea of what you are facing as they continue to grow.