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<blockquote data-quote="Jungleland" data-source="post: 273095" data-attributes="member: 4598"><p>Hi family. Last evening the Behaviorist was here to do his assessment. He was here for 3 1/2 hours, from 6pm-9:30pm!!! </p><p> </p><p>It went very well as difficult child showed him many of her "best" behaviors! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I think he got a really good peek into the "jungle" that is my home.</p><p> </p><p>He still has to write up his assessment and present his recommendations to funding, but he is looking at at least 17 hours monthly for at least 6 months. He gave us a few quick suggestions of catching difficult child before she escalates into full blown rage to have the choice of a "tight hug", listening to music in a quiet room, etc, while thinking about the behavior and what she could do differently then we talk. If she does not comply then she gets a full "time out". </p><p> </p><p>I explained that I cannot imagine "catching" her before the rage, there is NO TIME, she is there in 0-90!!! He wants us to try, so we will. </p><p> </p><p>Also, he noted she has horrible eye contact (ya think??) and showed us a few tricks of getting her to look at us and keep eye contact with at least one eye while we are talking. It actually worked while he was here.</p><p> </p><p>He said that behaviors will get worse at first before they start to improve, we already knew that, lol! </p><p> </p><p>He asked her "difficult child, do you want to change?" She said, after thinking for several minutes "I will have to get back to you on that, not sure I want to"<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> Wow, we really have our work cut out for us.</p><p> </p><p>He did say that he sees that difficult child does not trust us.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> We are not nearly as consistent as we need to be. I already feel like I am military parenting but he said NO WAY, you need to state the rules, stick to them, NO MATTER WHAT. We felt like we were already doing that, husband is much better than I lately, but I feel so strict with her. </p><p> </p><p>He said we need to put a lock on our bedroom door that locks with a key as difficult child is always sneaking in there to pour out my shampoos, lotions, perfumes, etc. Can we say passive aggressive behavior??!! He said we need to state our boundaries and stick to them NO MATTER WHAT. </p><p> </p><p>He observed that 5 yo "J" cuddles up for snuggles appropriately, whereas difficult child is "demanding" physicality by passive aggressive facial expressions and with her body. He told her that hugs are for loving, her demands are NOT loving. We role played the inappropriate and appropriate ways of "asking" for hugs with kind facial expressions and gentle touches. I really enjoyed this part and it carried over to this morning when she was very sweet with her morning hugs.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p><p> </p><p>All in all, I feel comfortable with him and think difficult child connected with him. Will be interesting to see how this evolves. We won't be starting with him for about a month, hopefully sooner if funding gets moving on it. </p><p> </p><p>On a side note, difficult child had a 43 point day yesterday at school!!!<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> Amazing!! Now if she could just pull that off for the rest of the school year, we'd be golden!!!</p><p> </p><p>Hugs and thanks for being here, Vickie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jungleland, post: 273095, member: 4598"] Hi family. Last evening the Behaviorist was here to do his assessment. He was here for 3 1/2 hours, from 6pm-9:30pm!!! It went very well as difficult child showed him many of her "best" behaviors! :winking: I think he got a really good peek into the "jungle" that is my home. He still has to write up his assessment and present his recommendations to funding, but he is looking at at least 17 hours monthly for at least 6 months. He gave us a few quick suggestions of catching difficult child before she escalates into full blown rage to have the choice of a "tight hug", listening to music in a quiet room, etc, while thinking about the behavior and what she could do differently then we talk. If she does not comply then she gets a full "time out". I explained that I cannot imagine "catching" her before the rage, there is NO TIME, she is there in 0-90!!! He wants us to try, so we will. Also, he noted she has horrible eye contact (ya think??) and showed us a few tricks of getting her to look at us and keep eye contact with at least one eye while we are talking. It actually worked while he was here. He said that behaviors will get worse at first before they start to improve, we already knew that, lol! He asked her "difficult child, do you want to change?" She said, after thinking for several minutes "I will have to get back to you on that, not sure I want to":surprised1: Wow, we really have our work cut out for us. He did say that he sees that difficult child does not trust us.:sad-very::surprised1: We are not nearly as consistent as we need to be. I already feel like I am military parenting but he said NO WAY, you need to state the rules, stick to them, NO MATTER WHAT. We felt like we were already doing that, husband is much better than I lately, but I feel so strict with her. He said we need to put a lock on our bedroom door that locks with a key as difficult child is always sneaking in there to pour out my shampoos, lotions, perfumes, etc. Can we say passive aggressive behavior??!! He said we need to state our boundaries and stick to them NO MATTER WHAT. He observed that 5 yo "J" cuddles up for snuggles appropriately, whereas difficult child is "demanding" physicality by passive aggressive facial expressions and with her body. He told her that hugs are for loving, her demands are NOT loving. We role played the inappropriate and appropriate ways of "asking" for hugs with kind facial expressions and gentle touches. I really enjoyed this part and it carried over to this morning when she was very sweet with her morning hugs.:happy: All in all, I feel comfortable with him and think difficult child connected with him. Will be interesting to see how this evolves. We won't be starting with him for about a month, hopefully sooner if funding gets moving on it. On a side note, difficult child had a 43 point day yesterday at school!!!:happy: Amazing!! Now if she could just pull that off for the rest of the school year, we'd be golden!!! Hugs and thanks for being here, Vickie [/QUOTE]
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