Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Behind bars 2 hours away.....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 483627" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Since there hasn't been a book written yet.....(or I'm sure you would be kindling or nooking it) -------may I offer some sage brush advice? (not that I'm anywhere near a level due even a secret handshake, but I am sleeping a little better at night - mostly) </p><p></p><p>And this is how you RE-direct the Reeeeediculous....(or at least how I attempted to do it because flatly? I was out of ideas and had no one else to throw a dead fish at) </p><p></p><p>What am I going to do now? </p><p>I have no idea </p><p>I mean I've got no where, no one, nothing -I should just kill myself......(long dramatic pause for effect - Um this is Dude's line in case you are wondering not mine - although it could have been mine hahahah) ahem. </p><p>Well that is also an option but then again, you have no insurance and it would yet again leave me and Dad with another problem - two actually - You'd leave Ouixa homeless and Fatherless. Shame on you. </p><p>I don't care. </p><p>That's obvious - always thinking about yourself - even in death - you've made NO provisions for my granddog. </p><p>You'd take her. </p><p>No, no I don't think so - without any chance for reunion with you? She'd be better off dead. I'm sure of it. </p><p>You'd kill my dog? </p><p>Well no, actually YOU would kill yourself, and thus you'd leave the matter with no other choice. She'd die anyway without you. What's the use in prolonging her misery? </p><p>God this is so #*(%ed up. </p><p>(me long dramatic sigh - long pause) </p><p>So how HAS life been living like YOU wanted it with all your choices after all? </p><p>Not funny Mom </p><p>Oh wasn't meant to be funny - I mean you DRAG me into one of these pity parties at least every three months - and you're what???? 20 years old - Sheesh....Did you not hear the grow up bell? 21 is just around the corner ---I can't get you a job, I can't MAKE you go to school, I can't GET you back in school, I can't tell you when to go to bed, I can't tell you what to where, when to take a shower, what to eat, what NOT to eat, what to drink, who to talk to, who to hang out with....where to go, where NOT to go - what to do, what NOT to do - and these were ALL THE THINGS that were SO BLOODY important to you when you LEFT HERE vowing never to return because ----how did you put it - Oh yeah (I wrote it down) It SUCKS here so bad even the dogs should run away and never let you be their Mother. So how is living on your own going? (or in your case How is Prison going for you?) </p><p>Just freakin' great Mom can't you tell? </p><p>Yup - sounds like you've made some wonderful decisions and have your directions mapped out. That's what adults do. Not come home to their Mommies..and live off their MOmmies.....</p><p></p><p>You son....need a job, and an education -----and a place to stay - and you need to get these things ON YOUR OWN. I'm not the help brigade anymore - I'm the support person. This is how life is lived. </p><p>You're living YOURs and now I'm going to go and live MINE - you need to understand that. There is NO room at the inn. We've remodeled our hearts, and our home - and while you'll always have a place in both - the only place you can be permanent resident in is .....my heart. The house has no room. </p><p></p><p>WIth that? It became VERY clear to him that he needed to find his own way because he had CHOSEN to make his own way - long ago. When he was in Department of Juvenile Justice and mouthed off to us? I brought him home for the last time and after 15 minutes ......FIFTEEN MINTUES I realized it was a HUGE HUGE mistake and vowed never again.....and by GOlly I meant it. The stories that I had to hear about the last three years of his life have been AWFUL......beyond awful if you knew my x - and that's what HE chose....his decisions put him and your son WHERE THEY ARE....in the mean time? I got ON with my life ........and that does NOT mean that I don't miss him or don't love him or don't mourn some of the dreams that I let go. THose are MY things to have and deal with. But what he's got to do now? Is the beginning of HIS life.....his story.......NOT the beginning of yours. </p><p></p><p>I say - LET HIM HAVE IT.....and go get your dreams......while you're still young enough to enjoy them because from what I can see.......and I hope it's not rose colored glass ------I think the snarky - tough love - go ahead and have a meal or ten out of the dumpster and bathe in the park ---and live with roaches and rats......have changed a boy who had it pretty friggin good. Yet made me feel like I was an inferior Mother and didn't do enough.....ever. Left to his own vices - THAT was the best his father could provide and it was 'okay?" .........:Yeah - I did more than okay - I was fantastic. (takes credit) You are TOO! </p><p></p><p>Just a thought or two from the dog ranch......</p><p></p><p>and NO I am NOT keeping LC</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 483627, member: 4964"] Since there hasn't been a book written yet.....(or I'm sure you would be kindling or nooking it) -------may I offer some sage brush advice? (not that I'm anywhere near a level due even a secret handshake, but I am sleeping a little better at night - mostly) And this is how you RE-direct the Reeeeediculous....(or at least how I attempted to do it because flatly? I was out of ideas and had no one else to throw a dead fish at) What am I going to do now? I have no idea I mean I've got no where, no one, nothing -I should just kill myself......(long dramatic pause for effect - Um this is Dude's line in case you are wondering not mine - although it could have been mine hahahah) ahem. Well that is also an option but then again, you have no insurance and it would yet again leave me and Dad with another problem - two actually - You'd leave Ouixa homeless and Fatherless. Shame on you. I don't care. That's obvious - always thinking about yourself - even in death - you've made NO provisions for my granddog. You'd take her. No, no I don't think so - without any chance for reunion with you? She'd be better off dead. I'm sure of it. You'd kill my dog? Well no, actually YOU would kill yourself, and thus you'd leave the matter with no other choice. She'd die anyway without you. What's the use in prolonging her misery? God this is so #*(%ed up. (me long dramatic sigh - long pause) So how HAS life been living like YOU wanted it with all your choices after all? Not funny Mom Oh wasn't meant to be funny - I mean you DRAG me into one of these pity parties at least every three months - and you're what???? 20 years old - Sheesh....Did you not hear the grow up bell? 21 is just around the corner ---I can't get you a job, I can't MAKE you go to school, I can't GET you back in school, I can't tell you when to go to bed, I can't tell you what to where, when to take a shower, what to eat, what NOT to eat, what to drink, who to talk to, who to hang out with....where to go, where NOT to go - what to do, what NOT to do - and these were ALL THE THINGS that were SO BLOODY important to you when you LEFT HERE vowing never to return because ----how did you put it - Oh yeah (I wrote it down) It SUCKS here so bad even the dogs should run away and never let you be their Mother. So how is living on your own going? (or in your case How is Prison going for you?) Just freakin' great Mom can't you tell? Yup - sounds like you've made some wonderful decisions and have your directions mapped out. That's what adults do. Not come home to their Mommies..and live off their MOmmies..... You son....need a job, and an education -----and a place to stay - and you need to get these things ON YOUR OWN. I'm not the help brigade anymore - I'm the support person. This is how life is lived. You're living YOURs and now I'm going to go and live MINE - you need to understand that. There is NO room at the inn. We've remodeled our hearts, and our home - and while you'll always have a place in both - the only place you can be permanent resident in is .....my heart. The house has no room. WIth that? It became VERY clear to him that he needed to find his own way because he had CHOSEN to make his own way - long ago. When he was in Department of Juvenile Justice and mouthed off to us? I brought him home for the last time and after 15 minutes ......FIFTEEN MINTUES I realized it was a HUGE HUGE mistake and vowed never again.....and by GOlly I meant it. The stories that I had to hear about the last three years of his life have been AWFUL......beyond awful if you knew my x - and that's what HE chose....his decisions put him and your son WHERE THEY ARE....in the mean time? I got ON with my life ........and that does NOT mean that I don't miss him or don't love him or don't mourn some of the dreams that I let go. THose are MY things to have and deal with. But what he's got to do now? Is the beginning of HIS life.....his story.......NOT the beginning of yours. I say - LET HIM HAVE IT.....and go get your dreams......while you're still young enough to enjoy them because from what I can see.......and I hope it's not rose colored glass ------I think the snarky - tough love - go ahead and have a meal or ten out of the dumpster and bathe in the park ---and live with roaches and rats......have changed a boy who had it pretty friggin good. Yet made me feel like I was an inferior Mother and didn't do enough.....ever. Left to his own vices - THAT was the best his father could provide and it was 'okay?" .........:Yeah - I did more than okay - I was fantastic. (takes credit) You are TOO! Just a thought or two from the dog ranch...... and NO I am NOT keeping LC [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Behind bars 2 hours away.....
Top