New Leaf, do you understand why your mother and brother and sister capitulated to her in the care decisions for your father?
Is it because she is so persistent and dominant about it, and people fold?
Or does she actually do things to get her way, that may be secretive or underhanded?
In the case of my sister with my mother, my sister actually acted unilaterally and improperly when she had no legal right to do so, and intervened in a way that was unwarranted, wrong and cruel. To my mother and to me.
But it was a wake up call to me. And to my mother. It gave us the window to take protective steps.
I felt compelled to support my mother to arrange her affairs legally to protect herself (and me).
My sister will never forgive us. She does not see she did anything wrong. But has never in her whole life felt she did.
COPA
