Hi lovely Carolita, that name roles off of my tongue like a song.
I think FOO affects everyone, whether good or bad. We take a lot from our childhood experiences through our lives.
I am sorry for this Carolita, that is sad. You have integrity in helping her. 89 is a long life. I find my Mom at 82 is different. She is ill, and not feeling herself. On a recent visit, I tried to hug her long, it was too much for her, she pushed me away. My Mom has a hard time with physical contact. I don't know why. But, it did hurt me as a child.
Interesting. Did you know that until the 1980's surgeons would operate on babies without pain management? It is true. I think folks during our Moms times had a very different outlook towards infants. It is amazing we all survived. Remember the old saying "Better seen than heard" ? I think that how we were raised had a lot to do with that notion.
Now, it has completely swung the other way. Children are coddled and spoiled, there is no balance to this.
I am glad this is so, Carolita, you not being devastated. That is a hard place to be. I understand minimizing contact for your sanity.
I look forward to you joining in Carolita, welcome!
leafy
