Copa, it is NOT "something in you". She cannot judge you. She had not gone through what you have gone through.
You have made such progress! That growth needs to be protected and nutured.
Could he stay at a hotel or in your investment home?
If he did stay at your house, you need to have a clear date to leave and have very explicit guidelines for what is allowed or not allowed.
Yes, you have every right to feel that you have no more to give. You still love him, and you do not want to aggravate your stable relationship. You are burned out.
He has been seeing the doctors and is afraid...of logical things and illogical things. You need strict rules in place, even if he stays elsewhere. There should be certain topics off limits to encourage a relaxed setting for all.
Let your son know that you love him, but you are worried because of his past behavior. You have every right to not want to see him now. You are fragile. As Cedar put it, about me, "your heart is tender and bruised".
Do what is right for you! Do not worry about how M or M's sister views you.
You come first right now.
