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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 672109" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>This is how it starts Copa. I know the benign explanation well.</p><p>It has turned on us many times.</p><p>If daughter was different, the approach would have been different.</p><p>I know she wants this, the comfort of home. But she does not want to exact the price, follow the rules. Be honest.Treat others the way you want to be treated.</p><p></p><p>If I see her, I shall tell her I love her, but that she needs to get help.</p><p></p><p>Whether or not it happens, is between her and God.</p><p></p><p>Maybe it is not an F.U., maybe it is a yoga pant white flag. Except the yoga pants were black.</p><p></p><p>I shall pray for the best, and prepare. I have no control over the outcome, just my responses.</p><p></p><p> To want these things is normal, to be able to appreciate, an entirely different thing.</p><p></p><p> You are right Copa, it does not work this way.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>How to<em> lovingly </em>detach from this, I do not know.</p><p>I once saw a documentary on drugs, where a psychologist would go and treat homeless drug addicts. Most of them had used and abused their families to the point where they could no longer take them in. The psychologist was very loving and kind.</p><p>I do not know how to be this to my daughter in her state of mind, Copa. It is not that I haven't tried.</p><p>I have tried, but nothing I say to her works.</p><p>It does not matter what, or how I say it, everything is twisted and turned around.</p><p>She is angry and confused.</p><p>I am waiting for rock bottom.</p><p>How far does rock bottom have to be?</p><p>I thought rock bottom was hit many months ago.</p><p></p><p>We shall see, Copa. I will pray for my strength, and a miracle for her.I must remeber I have given her back to him. I must have faith in my convictions.</p><p></p><p>We shall see, what happens, until then, I must carry on.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your kind words and comfort sister.</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 672109, member: 19522"] This is how it starts Copa. I know the benign explanation well. It has turned on us many times. If daughter was different, the approach would have been different. I know she wants this, the comfort of home. But she does not want to exact the price, follow the rules. Be honest.Treat others the way you want to be treated. If I see her, I shall tell her I love her, but that she needs to get help. Whether or not it happens, is between her and God. Maybe it is not an F.U., maybe it is a yoga pant white flag. Except the yoga pants were black. I shall pray for the best, and prepare. I have no control over the outcome, just my responses. To want these things is normal, to be able to appreciate, an entirely different thing. You are right Copa, it does not work this way. How to[I] lovingly [/I]detach from this, I do not know. I once saw a documentary on drugs, where a psychologist would go and treat homeless drug addicts. Most of them had used and abused their families to the point where they could no longer take them in. The psychologist was very loving and kind. I do not know how to be this to my daughter in her state of mind, Copa. It is not that I haven't tried. I have tried, but nothing I say to her works. It does not matter what, or how I say it, everything is twisted and turned around. She is angry and confused. I am waiting for rock bottom. How far does rock bottom have to be? I thought rock bottom was hit many months ago. We shall see, Copa. I will pray for my strength, and a miracle for her.I must remeber I have given her back to him. I must have faith in my convictions. We shall see, what happens, until then, I must carry on. Thank you for your kind words and comfort sister. leafy [/QUOTE]
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