The more I think about it the more I believe that kindness cannot work. We are their parents. They look to us for a boundary. For a limit. The love, they know. It is not love they need. They already know.
We need to be authority. Not that we have to say or do anything. But to stand for "right." And to not tolerate from them anything other than that.
We know who they are and who they were raised to be. We will accept no less than this. As Cedar says.
And draw the line. In our territory and with ourselves we can do that. You cannot stop her transgressions except to call the police.
I believe your daughter is still herself. But we cannot accept anything other than this, from her.
The psychologist can, because he is not her parent.
COPA