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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 672327" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>This is like fireworks in the night sky, Copa.</p><p></p><p>Growth.</p><p></p><p>BOOM</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You are not only the house of stone Copa, but the person who conceived of its necessity and saw it through to completion and created safe harbor. In the fairy tale, the other little pigs come to the house of stone, and find shelter, there.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You know what I think? I think that when we make it through, there is Nietzsche's love ~ what came first, what we really are beneath it all.</p><p></p><p>There was no longer reason not to extend great good will. Without fear, without angst, there seems only to be great good will.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is true.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, I agree. A way of pronouncing your own name.</p><p></p><p>Right out loud, with clarity and perfect diction.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>They do now Copa because you are different. You are whole and strong again in a way you may not have been, before. Remember when I used to post that once D H and I had become vulnerable because our family was falling apart, that it seemed my family of origin went on the attack? This is the same thing, in a way. The attacks were always happening, but we were immune. When we became vulnerable, when you lost your mother and your son became sick...the attacks that were happening all along became blatant, the weapons used less knives and teeth than like, bulldozers.</p><p></p><p>No subtlety, because our vulnerability sets them almost into blood frenzy.</p><p></p><p>But the attacks were conceived and launched out of their shortcomings and our vulnerability. All it ever took to unravel the hurt and betrayal was becoming stronger, ourselves. </p><p></p><p>Take shunning.</p><p></p><p>Here is the answer: "My circle is small."</p><p></p><p>Answer #2: "Loyalty matters."</p><p></p><p>Answer #3: "Never f*** me over."</p><p></p><p>That's the answer.</p><p></p><p>Centered; coming back to center.</p><p></p><p>No longer enmeshed, we see which behaviors are ours and which, theirs. We see that enmeshment place, and unravel it, simple and clean.</p><p></p><p>Interesting that we are discussing natural cleaning products, today.</p><p></p><p>There's that dragonfly / mosquito circle, again.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You are still coming through I think, Copa.</p><p></p><p>Like me.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think it is Nietzsche's love theory again. There becomes less and less reason not to love. The thing to remember is that we are the only ones who have changed. I don't know whether we would be vulnerable to them still, or whether we would see so clearly the motivation that we would feel compassion for us all.</p><p></p><p>I think those we love are simply those we love. (Anne Rice said that.) </p><p></p><p>They will always elicit response.</p><p></p><p>They are our witnesses, as we are theirs.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>This is all theoretic, you guys. In real life, there is pain and confusion and struggle to place ourselves, and to stay upright before letting the wind take us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 672327, member: 17461"] This is like fireworks in the night sky, Copa. Growth. BOOM :O) You are not only the house of stone Copa, but the person who conceived of its necessity and saw it through to completion and created safe harbor. In the fairy tale, the other little pigs come to the house of stone, and find shelter, there. You know what I think? I think that when we make it through, there is Nietzsche's love ~ what came first, what we really are beneath it all. There was no longer reason not to extend great good will. Without fear, without angst, there seems only to be great good will. Maybe this is true. Yes, I agree. A way of pronouncing your own name. Right out loud, with clarity and perfect diction. They do now Copa because you are different. You are whole and strong again in a way you may not have been, before. Remember when I used to post that once D H and I had become vulnerable because our family was falling apart, that it seemed my family of origin went on the attack? This is the same thing, in a way. The attacks were always happening, but we were immune. When we became vulnerable, when you lost your mother and your son became sick...the attacks that were happening all along became blatant, the weapons used less knives and teeth than like, bulldozers. No subtlety, because our vulnerability sets them almost into blood frenzy. But the attacks were conceived and launched out of their shortcomings and our vulnerability. All it ever took to unravel the hurt and betrayal was becoming stronger, ourselves. Take shunning. Here is the answer: "My circle is small." Answer #2: "Loyalty matters." Answer #3: "Never f*** me over." That's the answer. Centered; coming back to center. No longer enmeshed, we see which behaviors are ours and which, theirs. We see that enmeshment place, and unravel it, simple and clean. Interesting that we are discussing natural cleaning products, today. There's that dragonfly / mosquito circle, again. You are still coming through I think, Copa. Like me. I think it is Nietzsche's love theory again. There becomes less and less reason not to love. The thing to remember is that we are the only ones who have changed. I don't know whether we would be vulnerable to them still, or whether we would see so clearly the motivation that we would feel compassion for us all. I think those we love are simply those we love. (Anne Rice said that.) They will always elicit response. They are our witnesses, as we are theirs. Cedar This is all theoretic, you guys. In real life, there is pain and confusion and struggle to place ourselves, and to stay upright before letting the wind take us. [/QUOTE]
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