I think this stance applies to our D C's too.
When we know. When we see through our own eyes. We have the responsibility to go gently. And flexibly. To not antagonize or inflame unnecessarily.
There is responsibility that comes from seeing from our own eyes to not engage in such a way that loving becomes harder. To hear them without reacting.
There is loss too. The sense of being right.
There is great growth. Great potential from a position of love. No guarantees. But strength and possibility.
I see that with my sister, until yesterday, I was still hedging my bets. By anticipating her negative responses, I was cloaking myself in self-justification and an armor of self-righteousness.
With my son, too.
A stance of love allows for none of this.
COPA