That was a beautiful post, and wise, and informative, too. I learned a lot. I will revisit it later but have to go out now.
This is very good sense. Helping others to learn and to protect the relationship. Her and myself, too. Maybe I should have shared the little iron with her. And kept one. Maybe that is the lesson here. I am still coming from lack with respect to things, as well as love.
I need to work on my buying more intensely from this vantage point. My buying fits the definition of a symptom. In psychology, a symptom both gratifies and punishes at the same time. I express my lack and desire to fill it, but punish myself doing so. Financially. My house, filled with junk I do not want or need. A sense of shame that I am out of control.
I see my own limits clearly with M's family. With them, it seems like there is one crisis after another. I judge. Never in my life did I believe I was a judgmental person, but I am.
I keep seeing how each of them creates their quicksand, I mean, just shovels it in.
And M says: We have our own quicksand. And looks around to the house and all of the residue of uncontrolled spending and still I am doing more. And I get his point.
COPA
