We didn’t fully realize the negative impact our daughter had on our son until he was much older and I do wish I had years before.
After a horrible incident with her, we have kept her at a distance and are practicing detachment.
But we do communicate with her regularly and help her a little here and there as appropriate.
At some point perhaps we can meet up with her…physically. Not just on the phone. And we anre always nice…but detached. Unsure if this meetup will include her brother any time soon. It’s heartbreaking.