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<blockquote data-quote="won'tgiveup" data-source="post: 448778" data-attributes="member: 12474"><p>Thank you for your insight. My daughter lives with her dad which doesn't help. Whenever she has an episode with me, she usually runs back to him with no consequence. I guess taking away her vacation was the only way I could show her that yes, she will have SOME consequence with me if she disrespects or abuses me. However I am wrestling with the question, "Will it even make a difference, or will it cause her to become more defiant toward me?"</p><p></p><p>I have to reason that I am an intelligent person with genuine feelings, and at the time I felt it was the best thing to do. Maybe she will think twice next time?</p><p></p><p>I see that you are a teacher, exhausted. So am I. I guess I naturally feel that there has to be a solution to a child's bad behavior (because at school I am surely expected to find a solution!)</p><p></p><p>Last January my daughter stayed with me while her dad was out of town, and she was the sweetest girl ever, working hard on her homework and being so pleasant. Until Saturday morning at 4 a.m. I was awakened by exhaust fumes and a horrible noise, only to run to the garage and find her pulling my beat-up car (with the front tires gone!!) into my garage! She was 14 at the time--I didn't even know she could drive! Apparently she and her friend went out to get some pot and have a joy ride in my car, then hit a curb and blew out the tires. $2000 damage. At least she was OK. Her dad was back in town and came and got her.</p><p></p><p>The next day I was home alone and the police came to my door. I saw that there was an ambulance and firetruck in front of my house. Some one had found my daughter lying in the grass apparently unconscious. After going to the hospital and finding pot and adderol in her system, they sent her to a treatment center. She told the staff that she had faked the whole thing to get attention from me. When I went to visit her at the center, she said "Why the F...are you here?"</p><p></p><p>I have many more stories but I am sure you are familiar with what goes on. I pray every day that she will shed this ugliness and become her sweet, intelligent, full-of-life self. I will take your advice, keep reading, seek counsel, pray a lot, and try to be ever hopeful<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="won'tgiveup, post: 448778, member: 12474"] Thank you for your insight. My daughter lives with her dad which doesn't help. Whenever she has an episode with me, she usually runs back to him with no consequence. I guess taking away her vacation was the only way I could show her that yes, she will have SOME consequence with me if she disrespects or abuses me. However I am wrestling with the question, "Will it even make a difference, or will it cause her to become more defiant toward me?" I have to reason that I am an intelligent person with genuine feelings, and at the time I felt it was the best thing to do. Maybe she will think twice next time? I see that you are a teacher, exhausted. So am I. I guess I naturally feel that there has to be a solution to a child's bad behavior (because at school I am surely expected to find a solution!) Last January my daughter stayed with me while her dad was out of town, and she was the sweetest girl ever, working hard on her homework and being so pleasant. Until Saturday morning at 4 a.m. I was awakened by exhaust fumes and a horrible noise, only to run to the garage and find her pulling my beat-up car (with the front tires gone!!) into my garage! She was 14 at the time--I didn't even know she could drive! Apparently she and her friend went out to get some pot and have a joy ride in my car, then hit a curb and blew out the tires. $2000 damage. At least she was OK. Her dad was back in town and came and got her. The next day I was home alone and the police came to my door. I saw that there was an ambulance and firetruck in front of my house. Some one had found my daughter lying in the grass apparently unconscious. After going to the hospital and finding pot and adderol in her system, they sent her to a treatment center. She told the staff that she had faked the whole thing to get attention from me. When I went to visit her at the center, she said "Why the F...are you here?" I have many more stories but I am sure you are familiar with what goes on. I pray every day that she will shed this ugliness and become her sweet, intelligent, full-of-life self. I will take your advice, keep reading, seek counsel, pray a lot, and try to be ever hopeful:) [/QUOTE]
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