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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 350992"><p>Thank you all.</p><p>Star, your post truly touched my heart. I too am aware of the idea that she gets what she deserves. I don't like it when people are cruel to her, but I do not fault people one bit for protecting themselves. </p><p>Wanna hear something STRANGE? difficult child has an acquaintance, same age, also adopted. She moves from apartment to apt. Guess what difficult child said recently??? Something like her parents shouldn't give her money to help her move so often. SAY WHAT? We either don't help her at all with her moves or in a very limited way. (Very limited could not be stressed enough).</p><p>However, she knows it causes stress to herself, her family, all around her and drains her account. </p><p>husband pointed this out to her...and she was very quiet. We are not helping her at all with this move. We haven't been helping her and she has almost nothing left to her name...lost all her furniture...etc. It is all so sad.</p><p></p><p>husband and I did not even consider bringing her home. </p><p>Our help for her is limited and mostly confined to medical needs and health related necessities. </p><p></p><p></p><p>She has made temporary plans to stay with her difficult child friend for one month. He owes husband money (long hideous/never to be repeated/ money never to be seen again) story. So, difficult child is going to stay there. He is asking for a couple of dollars for the month. (Should NOT be asking for anything under the circumstances). He says she can stay there next month as well, and she can pay week to week at that time. Even they recognize that it is not likely to last long. And truth be told, who knows how long she'll last there...one, two weeks...a month....6 weeks. difficult children are not accountable....it's all a crxp shoot. Anyway, difficult child is making all the arrangements....she's gotten halfway decent at this. And like folks have said here...they have a weird way of landing on their feet. Although each time she lands, she is a little less "okay" than the previous time. It's hard for me to watch....but it is what it is.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line is she has to make these tough decisions and changes on her own. difficult child grew up in a nice area, but my city is large, over populated and as you know difficult children tend to live in the rougher areas. As a mom, I worry for her safety. I know you guys understand. It's impossible not to do this. Not sure what to do about it really. That is why I am inquiring about guardianship. Doesn't hurt to ask...but not sure this is the answer. I just hope and pray that sooner, rather than later, she will be able to make more positive changes on her own. </p><p></p><p>As always, I am appreciative of your support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 350992"] Thank you all. Star, your post truly touched my heart. I too am aware of the idea that she gets what she deserves. I don't like it when people are cruel to her, but I do not fault people one bit for protecting themselves. Wanna hear something STRANGE? difficult child has an acquaintance, same age, also adopted. She moves from apartment to apt. Guess what difficult child said recently??? Something like her parents shouldn't give her money to help her move so often. SAY WHAT? We either don't help her at all with her moves or in a very limited way. (Very limited could not be stressed enough). However, she knows it causes stress to herself, her family, all around her and drains her account. husband pointed this out to her...and she was very quiet. We are not helping her at all with this move. We haven't been helping her and she has almost nothing left to her name...lost all her furniture...etc. It is all so sad. husband and I did not even consider bringing her home. Our help for her is limited and mostly confined to medical needs and health related necessities. She has made temporary plans to stay with her difficult child friend for one month. He owes husband money (long hideous/never to be repeated/ money never to be seen again) story. So, difficult child is going to stay there. He is asking for a couple of dollars for the month. (Should NOT be asking for anything under the circumstances). He says she can stay there next month as well, and she can pay week to week at that time. Even they recognize that it is not likely to last long. And truth be told, who knows how long she'll last there...one, two weeks...a month....6 weeks. difficult children are not accountable....it's all a crxp shoot. Anyway, difficult child is making all the arrangements....she's gotten halfway decent at this. And like folks have said here...they have a weird way of landing on their feet. Although each time she lands, she is a little less "okay" than the previous time. It's hard for me to watch....but it is what it is. Bottom line is she has to make these tough decisions and changes on her own. difficult child grew up in a nice area, but my city is large, over populated and as you know difficult children tend to live in the rougher areas. As a mom, I worry for her safety. I know you guys understand. It's impossible not to do this. Not sure what to do about it really. That is why I am inquiring about guardianship. Doesn't hurt to ask...but not sure this is the answer. I just hope and pray that sooner, rather than later, she will be able to make more positive changes on her own. As always, I am appreciative of your support. [/QUOTE]
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