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Big dip down on roller coaster ride..need support & ideas...no judgment
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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 351139" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>First of all, hugs.</p><p></p><p>As for the guardianship, I don't know how helpful this will be but take what you will.</p><p></p><p>For the last 10 years or so and up until her death, husband was guardian for his mother who was a paranoid schizophrenic. He had control of her bank account, was the payee for her disability and made all of her medical decisions. In those areas, it was a good thing as mother in law was either not in any state of mind to do it or was so out of touch with all things financial that she wouldn't have had a clue. As for him GETTING guardianship, in this case it wasn't hard. She was off her medications, had been for awhile and finally snapped, physically attacking her daughter. It was enough to have her hospitalized and husband started the proceedings then. There was a competency hearing but there was no question in her situation which made things a lot easier. </p><p></p><p>And as I said, it made life easier in all things financial and medical as husband took care of it all. But...as with all difficult child's no matter the age or diagnosis, just because husband was her guardian, it didn't mean he got her to do anything she still didn't want to. If she didn't want to take her medications, she'd cheek them. OMG...I cleaned out her apartment and found pills EVERYWHERE even in her purse. If she didn't want to leave the apartment for a doctor's appointment, there was no convincing her. </p><p></p><p>There are pros and cons to the guardianship but as the parent of a difficult child, my biggest concern would be how liable I would be for difficult child's actions if I was the legal guardian, Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>I know that's not really in depth and may not help, but it's just my take on it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 351139, member: 2459"] First of all, hugs. As for the guardianship, I don't know how helpful this will be but take what you will. For the last 10 years or so and up until her death, husband was guardian for his mother who was a paranoid schizophrenic. He had control of her bank account, was the payee for her disability and made all of her medical decisions. In those areas, it was a good thing as mother in law was either not in any state of mind to do it or was so out of touch with all things financial that she wouldn't have had a clue. As for him GETTING guardianship, in this case it wasn't hard. She was off her medications, had been for awhile and finally snapped, physically attacking her daughter. It was enough to have her hospitalized and husband started the proceedings then. There was a competency hearing but there was no question in her situation which made things a lot easier. And as I said, it made life easier in all things financial and medical as husband took care of it all. But...as with all difficult child's no matter the age or diagnosis, just because husband was her guardian, it didn't mean he got her to do anything she still didn't want to. If she didn't want to take her medications, she'd cheek them. OMG...I cleaned out her apartment and found pills EVERYWHERE even in her purse. If she didn't want to leave the apartment for a doctor's appointment, there was no convincing her. There are pros and cons to the guardianship but as the parent of a difficult child, my biggest concern would be how liable I would be for difficult child's actions if I was the legal guardian, Know what I mean?? I know that's not really in depth and may not help, but it's just my take on it. [/QUOTE]
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