IC, you are right! And that's why some people don't understand severe, full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Many insecurely attached kids have problems attaching or keeping friends or trusting and some leave the family when they grow up (like our Scott did). But he was able to attach to his wife and his child. His ability to totally walk away from us was sad and made me cry for at least a year, but I realize he hadn't bonded to his adoptive family. It hurt emotionally, but at least he did not physically harm anybody or anything and he does have a conscience, although a damaged one that is selective. That would be insecure attachment.
Psychokid was full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). The kid who set his foster parent's house on fire then calmly asked if he could go to McDonalds as he watched it burn down, the children who deliberately make false allegations of sexual abuse against their parents for no reason anyone can understand...those are the real Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids. They are not just insecurely attached. They are NOT attached. They care about nobody. They are not fixable. They will grow up to be antisocial because they don't think of humans as anything but objects (or animals) and they don't believe that rules apply to them.
