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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 341507" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I agree, I think you have to intervene and treat her as if she were a menstruating 3 year old. </p><p></p><p>I went through sort of related issues with difficult child 1. Not period stuff obviously, but ridiculously bad personal hygiene. He would not wash his hair, he would not wash his body. So I told him, "YOu go and wash. If you cannot do it, I will come into the bathroom with you and wash you. I know you're a well-developed adolescent male who does not want his mother to se him naked, but me seeing you naked is preferable to the rest of the world smelling you dirty."</p><p></p><p>I would go over him after his shower, and give him the sniff test. If he was still not clean enough, I would send him back, with the serious threat that I would come in and make sure by physically supervising, or lathering him up myself. I would have let him wear his "budgie smugglers" (Speedo swimsuit) but I was going to insist. He knew I would do it - I think that was the important thing. Never make a threat you won't follow through on.</p><p></p><p>With girls and periods and not looking after herself - definitely one for the doctor, in so many areas. And yes, I agree with personal supervision of every napkin change. No tampons permitted if she can't prove a much greater capability of looking after herself - it's too easy for someone so slovenly to leave a tampon in and get a nasty (and dangerous) infection. Or even TSS.</p><p></p><p>If you have a girl who responds to this by simply refusing to change pads (and is therefore leaving track marks around the place) then do a Sylvia Fine (Fran's mother from "The Nanny") and cover the couch with clear plastic. Not permitted to sit down, dearie, if you are going to leave marks.</p><p></p><p>Same goes with washing soiled underwear - it's not a punishment, it's simply personal responsibility, to be made to wash them out. I would work alongside and support her in doing it (talking her through it, showing her what to do but making her do it) but not let her get away from it. Clean underwear on application and also by the clock. Fresh pads by the clock, with supervision of disposal of the soiled one. If necessary, sequestering her at home during her period until she's able to be trusted to change her pads responsibly herself. I know that sounds drastic, but her long-term physical and mental health comes in ahead of education on this. A kid who is this physically irresponsible is probably not following through with education, either.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 341507, member: 1991"] I agree, I think you have to intervene and treat her as if she were a menstruating 3 year old. I went through sort of related issues with difficult child 1. Not period stuff obviously, but ridiculously bad personal hygiene. He would not wash his hair, he would not wash his body. So I told him, "YOu go and wash. If you cannot do it, I will come into the bathroom with you and wash you. I know you're a well-developed adolescent male who does not want his mother to se him naked, but me seeing you naked is preferable to the rest of the world smelling you dirty." I would go over him after his shower, and give him the sniff test. If he was still not clean enough, I would send him back, with the serious threat that I would come in and make sure by physically supervising, or lathering him up myself. I would have let him wear his "budgie smugglers" (Speedo swimsuit) but I was going to insist. He knew I would do it - I think that was the important thing. Never make a threat you won't follow through on. With girls and periods and not looking after herself - definitely one for the doctor, in so many areas. And yes, I agree with personal supervision of every napkin change. No tampons permitted if she can't prove a much greater capability of looking after herself - it's too easy for someone so slovenly to leave a tampon in and get a nasty (and dangerous) infection. Or even TSS. If you have a girl who responds to this by simply refusing to change pads (and is therefore leaving track marks around the place) then do a Sylvia Fine (Fran's mother from "The Nanny") and cover the couch with clear plastic. Not permitted to sit down, dearie, if you are going to leave marks. Same goes with washing soiled underwear - it's not a punishment, it's simply personal responsibility, to be made to wash them out. I would work alongside and support her in doing it (talking her through it, showing her what to do but making her do it) but not let her get away from it. Clean underwear on application and also by the clock. Fresh pads by the clock, with supervision of disposal of the soiled one. If necessary, sequestering her at home during her period until she's able to be trusted to change her pads responsibly herself. I know that sounds drastic, but her long-term physical and mental health comes in ahead of education on this. A kid who is this physically irresponsible is probably not following through with education, either. Marg [/QUOTE]
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