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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 469028" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I would personally not rest my peace on a hope.......</p><p></p><p>My time on this earth is too short to continually spend it in an uproar over a woman who has ALREADY gotten to live her life the way she chose in her house, her rules, her way - without HER Mother in Law intruding sans her say so. </p><p></p><p>I had allowed - for a long time - my xmil to walk on me and grind me into the dirt, and even watched her get her way all the while making herself out to be the martyr. It wasn't until years later after much thearpy I realized that just because she was a mother in law or XMIL - she did not have permission to have her way no matter what, while making me feel like everything was wrong or my fault because I had married her son. Those issues were her problems and if she needed to deal with them? She could always go to therapy. I was, am and always have been a nice, polite, caring person - who ...when given the same respect will treat that person well. I am no longer the person that thinks I have to constantly be the person who NO MATTER WHAT - has to be the nice, polite, caring person - just because someone has a title like mother in law. You treat me like crud....You're on the list. Doesn't mean I'm going to treat YOU the same - just means you're not going to get the respect you think your're going to get just "because" you have a title. Act like an ape - you're not getting a corsage. And I see it in so many people. </p><p></p><p>As far as your husband? If he wants to tolerate her bullying behavior and allow her to walk all over him? So be it. You can't change him -only you. However when it comes to your house if that's a 50/50 deal? I'd be finding out which 50% is mine legally - and letting him know - he can either share it with you........or share it with a real estate lawyer. Unless of course you're willing to just be miserable and continue swallowing this for the rest of her life....<em>banking</em> on the fact that she's now in the beginning stages of dementia and may or may not be around for oh I dunno two to twelve more years. You both have tough choices. I only see one of you being firm. Hopefully both of you will be. </p><p></p><p>Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 469028, member: 4964"] I would personally not rest my peace on a hope....... My time on this earth is too short to continually spend it in an uproar over a woman who has ALREADY gotten to live her life the way she chose in her house, her rules, her way - without HER Mother in Law intruding sans her say so. I had allowed - for a long time - my xmil to walk on me and grind me into the dirt, and even watched her get her way all the while making herself out to be the martyr. It wasn't until years later after much thearpy I realized that just because she was a mother in law or XMIL - she did not have permission to have her way no matter what, while making me feel like everything was wrong or my fault because I had married her son. Those issues were her problems and if she needed to deal with them? She could always go to therapy. I was, am and always have been a nice, polite, caring person - who ...when given the same respect will treat that person well. I am no longer the person that thinks I have to constantly be the person who NO MATTER WHAT - has to be the nice, polite, caring person - just because someone has a title like mother in law. You treat me like crud....You're on the list. Doesn't mean I'm going to treat YOU the same - just means you're not going to get the respect you think your're going to get just "because" you have a title. Act like an ape - you're not getting a corsage. And I see it in so many people. As far as your husband? If he wants to tolerate her bullying behavior and allow her to walk all over him? So be it. You can't change him -only you. However when it comes to your house if that's a 50/50 deal? I'd be finding out which 50% is mine legally - and letting him know - he can either share it with you........or share it with a real estate lawyer. Unless of course you're willing to just be miserable and continue swallowing this for the rest of her life....[I]banking[/I] on the fact that she's now in the beginning stages of dementia and may or may not be around for oh I dunno two to twelve more years. You both have tough choices. I only see one of you being firm. Hopefully both of you will be. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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