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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 143439" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Susan,</p><p> </p><p>I know this must be so terribly hard for you. I do not have this particular set of problems with any of my kids at this time. </p><p> </p><p>It may be hard for you to come here, esp with some of what has been posted and the feeling that some here may be frustrated with you. Please don't think we don't care. We do.</p><p> </p><p>My hope for you is that no matter how this works out you can have some peace. If rehab works now, that will be wonderful. If it doesn't, you are STILL difficult child's mom. Loving a difficult child is probably one of the hardest, most thankless jobs that could ever exist. I do hope you learn to parent with-o the guilt and fear of co-dependence. Even if you don't, I will be here to listen and I will care.</p><p> </p><p>Having a child in prison (or jail - not sure I understand the difference. Both seem horrible) and knowing that child is not safe, fed, etc... is the worst torture that the parent of a living child can know, in my opinion. </p><p> </p><p>Please do what YOU and your husband feel is right for your family. It does not matter if it is what is right for me, or my family, or anyone else's family.</p><p> </p><p>It IS major progress that you told difficult child he would not be coming home. That alone is such a big step. You WILL make other steps. They will come when you are ready, not when anyone else is ready.</p><p> </p><p>You have my support and my prayers and my hopes for the future God intends you to have.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs and love,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 143439, member: 1233"] Susan, I know this must be so terribly hard for you. I do not have this particular set of problems with any of my kids at this time. It may be hard for you to come here, esp with some of what has been posted and the feeling that some here may be frustrated with you. Please don't think we don't care. We do. My hope for you is that no matter how this works out you can have some peace. If rehab works now, that will be wonderful. If it doesn't, you are STILL difficult child's mom. Loving a difficult child is probably one of the hardest, most thankless jobs that could ever exist. I do hope you learn to parent with-o the guilt and fear of co-dependence. Even if you don't, I will be here to listen and I will care. Having a child in prison (or jail - not sure I understand the difference. Both seem horrible) and knowing that child is not safe, fed, etc... is the worst torture that the parent of a living child can know, in my opinion. Please do what YOU and your husband feel is right for your family. It does not matter if it is what is right for me, or my family, or anyone else's family. It IS major progress that you told difficult child he would not be coming home. That alone is such a big step. You WILL make other steps. They will come when you are ready, not when anyone else is ready. You have my support and my prayers and my hopes for the future God intends you to have. Hugs and love, Susie [/QUOTE]
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