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<blockquote data-quote="eekysign" data-source="post: 262835" data-attributes="member: 6479"><p>Hmmm. When I still worked for the hospital, I spent a few years in nursing homes, some that had ALFs attached. I think for many elderly people, moving into an ALF doesn't seem all that different than moving into a nursing home. And many, many people believe that you go to a nursing home to die. It may not be soon, but once you are unable to 100&#37; care for yourself at home, it means you're OFFICIALLY on the downhill slope, and you don't have long left.</p><p> </p><p>And that really, really scares them. It doesn't matter that she can do more now, that she has more freedom and more active ability---giving up total independence is a huge, huge step. And it sounds like she's freaking out. I saw a few new patients do that, for them, it was just fear. Fear that they'll be left alone to die in the ALF/nursing home, and eventually everyone will stop visiting (cause that's the stereotype) or caring. </p><p> </p><p>Dunno if that's her problem, but I have seen people running their families ragged before. Usually once they got reassurance that the family did, in fact, still care about them, and a regular visiting schedule was set up, they calmed down. *fingers crossed* that you figure out what she needs to settle in, hon!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eekysign, post: 262835, member: 6479"] Hmmm. When I still worked for the hospital, I spent a few years in nursing homes, some that had ALFs attached. I think for many elderly people, moving into an ALF doesn't seem all that different than moving into a nursing home. And many, many people believe that you go to a nursing home to die. It may not be soon, but once you are unable to 100% care for yourself at home, it means you're OFFICIALLY on the downhill slope, and you don't have long left. And that really, really scares them. It doesn't matter that she can do more now, that she has more freedom and more active ability---giving up total independence is a huge, huge step. And it sounds like she's freaking out. I saw a few new patients do that, for them, it was just fear. Fear that they'll be left alone to die in the ALF/nursing home, and eventually everyone will stop visiting (cause that's the stereotype) or caring. Dunno if that's her problem, but I have seen people running their families ragged before. Usually once they got reassurance that the family did, in fact, still care about them, and a regular visiting schedule was set up, they calmed down. *fingers crossed* that you figure out what she needs to settle in, hon! [/QUOTE]
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