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<blockquote data-quote="Mabel" data-source="post: 716767" data-attributes="member: 22165"><p>radams, mother who has given up! I am so sorry that you have had to suffer all this especially with your son too. I am sure your daughter is so clever that she has manipulated him and he cannot get out of her grip which means he didnt have what it takes to stand up to her and probably fears her wrath. I know one of my sons is afraid of my daughter's wrath but doesn't admit it - she didn't go to his wedding , give him a gift or bother meeting his new wife but she has no problem using him to get her cheap car rentals on holidays etc. Luckily my other two sons support him in dealing with my daughter. What saves me is believing in just living the moment, when I am at my wits end or torn with grief I have pulled myself out of it thinking I have only have this moment and in this moment I am here say walking the dog , alone and that is all that is required of me. The book Stop walking on Eggshells definitely helped me as did shutting off my heart. I think every time my daughter abused me a tiny bit of me died in my relationship towards her. Things have been peaceful for a while now because I detached and drew back but stay in touch for grandchildrens sake. This is not what I thought my older years would be or what life would bring but my Dad used to always say to himself and to me "it could be worse!!! So I suppose seriously it could be worse, we could have had twin daughter with Borderline (BPD)!!! Not to be flippant, take good care of yourself - people think I am mad sometime when I say that I will heave a big sigh of relief when I draw my last breath and don;t have to wake up again.A big hug from an oul Irish granny. xx</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mabel, post: 716767, member: 22165"] radams, mother who has given up! I am so sorry that you have had to suffer all this especially with your son too. I am sure your daughter is so clever that she has manipulated him and he cannot get out of her grip which means he didnt have what it takes to stand up to her and probably fears her wrath. I know one of my sons is afraid of my daughter's wrath but doesn't admit it - she didn't go to his wedding , give him a gift or bother meeting his new wife but she has no problem using him to get her cheap car rentals on holidays etc. Luckily my other two sons support him in dealing with my daughter. What saves me is believing in just living the moment, when I am at my wits end or torn with grief I have pulled myself out of it thinking I have only have this moment and in this moment I am here say walking the dog , alone and that is all that is required of me. The book Stop walking on Eggshells definitely helped me as did shutting off my heart. I think every time my daughter abused me a tiny bit of me died in my relationship towards her. Things have been peaceful for a while now because I detached and drew back but stay in touch for grandchildrens sake. This is not what I thought my older years would be or what life would bring but my Dad used to always say to himself and to me "it could be worse!!! So I suppose seriously it could be worse, we could have had twin daughter with Borderline (BPD)!!! Not to be flippant, take good care of yourself - people think I am mad sometime when I say that I will heave a big sigh of relief when I draw my last breath and don;t have to wake up again.A big hug from an oul Irish granny. xx [/QUOTE]
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