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<blockquote data-quote="Sara PA" data-source="post: 171165" data-attributes="member: 1498"><p>I'm a fan of the old "Because I'm the mom and I said so" in some cases. It stops you from getting into a pi$$ing match with a child and it establishes the fact that you are the adult and you are in charge. </p><p></p><p>Don't get me wrong, I'm all for letting kids have a voice and giving the reason why decisions are made. But there's a line and when they get near the line, kids have to know that the adults are in charge. Everything is not open to discuss or negotiation. A lot is, but not everything. And sometimes kids don't even have to understand why a certain decision is being made, just that the adult in charge made it.</p><p></p><p>It sure beats threatening the kid with some punishment if they don't comply. That's like daring them to not listen to you. And you aren't stuck having to follow through with some punishment that's going to be more trouble than effective.</p><p></p><p>Most seven year olds don't really understand the concept of death or the finality of it. Her matter-of-fact, conversational tone of voice when threatening to kill you is a pretty good indication that she has no intention of actually killing you. It's just a word or nebulous concept she picked up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sara PA, post: 171165, member: 1498"] I'm a fan of the old "Because I'm the mom and I said so" in some cases. It stops you from getting into a pi$$ing match with a child and it establishes the fact that you are the adult and you are in charge. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for letting kids have a voice and giving the reason why decisions are made. But there's a line and when they get near the line, kids have to know that the adults are in charge. Everything is not open to discuss or negotiation. A lot is, but not everything. And sometimes kids don't even have to understand why a certain decision is being made, just that the adult in charge made it. It sure beats threatening the kid with some punishment if they don't comply. That's like daring them to not listen to you. And you aren't stuck having to follow through with some punishment that's going to be more trouble than effective. Most seven year olds don't really understand the concept of death or the finality of it. Her matter-of-fact, conversational tone of voice when threatening to kill you is a pretty good indication that she has no intention of actually killing you. It's just a word or nebulous concept she picked up. [/QUOTE]
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