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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 171685" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>I didn't read all the responses, so I will respond to your intial post. That is one very articulate 7 year old difficult child you have there. Her anger is very powerful and that she can articulate it words the way she does makes it very scary for a parent. However, being seven, she doesn't understand the obviously powerful impact they have.</p><p> </p><p>I'm a big fan of, "because I say so". There is no reason that exists in the world that would satisfy my difficult children when they are in that "I want" mode. Took me years of attempting to reason with them to get THAT through my skull. Now that it has, it's much less stress on me. They still throw tantrums, but I walk away. </p><p> </p><p>Son just came up to me a few minutes ago demanding that I give him a five bucks. I said a firm, "no", but Son wasn't done with me yet. He threw all he could at me: "Ok, how about three?; I don't WANT to use MY money; What did I ever do to you?; I'm your CHILD!"</p><p> </p><p>I responded with, "I gave you my answer. The discussion is over". He then stormed out yelling over his shoulder about what a horrible mom I am. </p><p> </p><p>Yeah, I'm horrible until the next time he wants something. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>I've certainly had my moments where I stooped to their level-very embarrassing. In the moment, when I scared and frustrated with them, I get lost in the muck of the overwhelming fear of "oh no, not again". I don't beat myself up, I just resolve myself not to do it again.</p><p> </p><p>This I found to be extremely odd:</p><p> </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>The point of having a neuropsychologist evaluation is to connect the brain to the behavior. Sometimes there are obvious neuro explanations, and sometimes there are not. There is simply no way of knowning unless the evaluation is done. Both of my difficult children have benn evaluated by different neuropsychs, and I have never heard about a kid having to reach a behavioral threshold before being deemed being qualified for an evaluation. Find someone else, if possible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 171685, member: 831"] I didn't read all the responses, so I will respond to your intial post. That is one very articulate 7 year old difficult child you have there. Her anger is very powerful and that she can articulate it words the way she does makes it very scary for a parent. However, being seven, she doesn't understand the obviously powerful impact they have. I'm a big fan of, "because I say so". There is no reason that exists in the world that would satisfy my difficult children when they are in that "I want" mode. Took me years of attempting to reason with them to get THAT through my skull. Now that it has, it's much less stress on me. They still throw tantrums, but I walk away. Son just came up to me a few minutes ago demanding that I give him a five bucks. I said a firm, "no", but Son wasn't done with me yet. He threw all he could at me: "Ok, how about three?; I don't WANT to use MY money; What did I ever do to you?; I'm your CHILD!" I responded with, "I gave you my answer. The discussion is over". He then stormed out yelling over his shoulder about what a horrible mom I am. Yeah, I'm horrible until the next time he wants something. :winking: I've certainly had my moments where I stooped to their level-very embarrassing. In the moment, when I scared and frustrated with them, I get lost in the muck of the overwhelming fear of "oh no, not again". I don't beat myself up, I just resolve myself not to do it again. This I found to be extremely odd: The point of having a neuropsychologist evaluation is to connect the brain to the behavior. Sometimes there are obvious neuro explanations, and sometimes there are not. There is simply no way of knowning unless the evaluation is done. Both of my difficult children have benn evaluated by different neuropsychs, and I have never heard about a kid having to reach a behavioral threshold before being deemed being qualified for an evaluation. Find someone else, if possible. [/QUOTE]
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