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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 268395" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Wow... You have a good point about where you're coming from.</p><p> </p><p>I have my own issues with that. First (not so much me), BM got pregnant with difficult child 1 when she and husband were about to split up. He stayed for the kid. I know, that's counterintuitive to the stereotype. But there you are. You see, husband has an older son - 16 now - who lives in PA with husband's first wife. This February was the first time husband has seen him in over 15 years. I don't consider myself the child's stepmother - I've never met him! Anyway, BM was 17 when she got pregnant. husband was 24. (Yeah, husband has gotten a LOT smarter since!) They got married when difficult child 1 was 2 1/2 years old, and just over a year later had difficult child 2. BM insisted that husband get fixed, because they almost lost difficult child 2 at birth. Then when difficult child 1 was 9 and difficult child 6, BM got pregnant again. Still don't know who the father was (not creep, before his time). She told the court-appointed counselor she couldn't remember the guy's last name. (ERR... AHEM.)</p><p> </p><p>Now for my issues. I got pregnant at 16 (senior in HS). FWIW, I still consider myself blessed that the matter was handled by a higher power. However, it was very early on. I found out and had just enough time to tell my parents and disappoint the heck out of them. I didn't have time to form a bond with the child. I still wonder what I did wrong, what happened... because I have not ever gotten pregnant since. Not with X, some other not-so-intelligent liaisons, and not with husband - although if I did, we'd both be looking for DNA tests and our Bibles!</p><p> </p><p>So my issues... I do not want to see this happen to my children. I love them too much. I want so much for them. I want them to have a chance to figure out what they want to do with their lives - and do it! They have enough to deal with as it is.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child 1 knows most of this. She knows <em>why</em> I feel it is inappropriate. on the other hand, I am the one who told her when she was ready to ask for birth control and I'd make sure it happened. And I did.</p><p> </p><p>On a lighter note - can you <em>really</em> get 40-packs of condoms for $10? Never seen them that cheap! Maybe I will have to take difficult child 1 shopping... <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/devil2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devil2:" title="devil2 :devil2:" data-shortname=":devil2:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 268395, member: 6705"] Wow... You have a good point about where you're coming from. I have my own issues with that. First (not so much me), BM got pregnant with difficult child 1 when she and husband were about to split up. He stayed for the kid. I know, that's counterintuitive to the stereotype. But there you are. You see, husband has an older son - 16 now - who lives in PA with husband's first wife. This February was the first time husband has seen him in over 15 years. I don't consider myself the child's stepmother - I've never met him! Anyway, BM was 17 when she got pregnant. husband was 24. (Yeah, husband has gotten a LOT smarter since!) They got married when difficult child 1 was 2 1/2 years old, and just over a year later had difficult child 2. BM insisted that husband get fixed, because they almost lost difficult child 2 at birth. Then when difficult child 1 was 9 and difficult child 6, BM got pregnant again. Still don't know who the father was (not creep, before his time). She told the court-appointed counselor she couldn't remember the guy's last name. (ERR... AHEM.) Now for my issues. I got pregnant at 16 (senior in HS). FWIW, I still consider myself blessed that the matter was handled by a higher power. However, it was very early on. I found out and had just enough time to tell my parents and disappoint the heck out of them. I didn't have time to form a bond with the child. I still wonder what I did wrong, what happened... because I have not ever gotten pregnant since. Not with X, some other not-so-intelligent liaisons, and not with husband - although if I did, we'd both be looking for DNA tests and our Bibles! So my issues... I do not want to see this happen to my children. I love them too much. I want so much for them. I want them to have a chance to figure out what they want to do with their lives - and do it! They have enough to deal with as it is. difficult child 1 knows most of this. She knows [I]why[/I] I feel it is inappropriate. on the other hand, I am the one who told her when she was ready to ask for birth control and I'd make sure it happened. And I did. On a lighter note - can you [I]really[/I] get 40-packs of condoms for $10? Never seen them that cheap! Maybe I will have to take difficult child 1 shopping... :devil2: [/QUOTE]
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