Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Brother Keeps Lying and Stealing
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 731215" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>You say your parents would never kick him out but can you use your influence to help HIM make the decision to become self sufficient with some community services. That would be my first option. If that doesn't work you still need to stop paying off his debts, when you said you were going to sell his things that would be a consequence. Let his credit crash so he can't get more credit. By paying them off you allow the behavior to continue. It might force him to work so that he can get things. Would your parents think about charging him rent? I know you feel bad because he has a disability but i agree with somewhere out there that he is capable of more independence than he is showing. There are many services for the disabled. I am a retired teacher and worked with kids who had trouble learning. One of the people who i admired most was a parent whose son had multiple disabilities. She would allow no excuses she pushed him to do everything he was capable off doing. She told him it just means you have to work harder. By the time he reached high school he had a parttime job and found that there were things he could excell at. So many parents use it as an excuse to allow the child to do nothing. Your brother is not a child and if he can get credit on his own he should have to be responsible for it. Your parents will not be here forever do you really want to have to bring your brother into your home and support him to the detriment of your wife and future kids?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 731215, member: 21499"] You say your parents would never kick him out but can you use your influence to help HIM make the decision to become self sufficient with some community services. That would be my first option. If that doesn't work you still need to stop paying off his debts, when you said you were going to sell his things that would be a consequence. Let his credit crash so he can't get more credit. By paying them off you allow the behavior to continue. It might force him to work so that he can get things. Would your parents think about charging him rent? I know you feel bad because he has a disability but i agree with somewhere out there that he is capable of more independence than he is showing. There are many services for the disabled. I am a retired teacher and worked with kids who had trouble learning. One of the people who i admired most was a parent whose son had multiple disabilities. She would allow no excuses she pushed him to do everything he was capable off doing. She told him it just means you have to work harder. By the time he reached high school he had a parttime job and found that there were things he could excell at. So many parents use it as an excuse to allow the child to do nothing. Your brother is not a child and if he can get credit on his own he should have to be responsible for it. Your parents will not be here forever do you really want to have to bring your brother into your home and support him to the detriment of your wife and future kids? [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Brother Keeps Lying and Stealing
Top