Hello Everyone, I'm not a parent, but I wanted to share my story and hope some of you can give me some advice regarding my brother. I want to thank everyone in advance for your time to read and respond. I also want to apologize if this starts to sound like a rant. I get so frustrated trying to help him. Before I set the tone for judgement, my mom and dad both work very hard and are at retirement age. They raised my sister, brother and myself in a good home and provided everything we needed. All they asked was for us to get a good education and a good job. My sister is living in NYC with her long time boyfriend and both of them work in corporate jobs. I am 37 working full time in a good accounting job and recently got engaged. My brother is 29 and well, I'm about to explain... My brother still lives at home with my parents. He is diagnosed with as having a learning disability. He is perfectly healthy and does not have a down syndrome or anything like that but rather he's "slow". He has had a history of issues from structured learning and was in a special education program in high school. Sometimes I think he has some sort of autism because he is fully capable of learning and understanding, but common sense doesn't seem to be, well, common to him. He has a history of lying and stealing from my parents. He will steal cash from any source in the house. He's stolen from my mom and dad's wallets, coin jars, and even forged checks (for over $2,000). He's gone as far as trying to cash one of my cancelled rent checks I keep for records. No matter how much money he has, he spends more and finds ways to get it. Now what does he spend all of it on? He plays a lot of video games and has practically every console and handheld and a ton of games. He also plays computer games, and says he wants to stream online to make money. So all of the money that he's spent have been on games and computer parts to build a "faster computer". As you read through the next paragraph, each time we find out he opened a line of credit and put a stop to it, we continue to see more games and other devices showing up in the house. And note each time we are not aware that he opened another line of credit. Here are the problems that we have run into the past 5 years: After a couple years off after high school he went to a community college and was working at McDonalds, but became overwhelmed by work and school and one day set a trash barrel on fire in the building. He was caught and expelled from the school. We had to go to court in which he received probation for the incident. He continued to work for McDonalds for little over a year when he was let go. He claimed that he fired for being was short a few dollars on his register, however I don't believe it and he won't tell the truth of what happened. A year later he got a seasonal job at Target during XMas season working full time at $11/hr. He was let go within 4 months and he claimed it was because he wasn't picked to stay on, but we found out later it was because he was stealing gift cards. He spent all of the money he made and still spent more. Then we find out that he opened 2 credit cards and amassed a debt of over $4,000. We paid this off to avoid interest and late fees. We asked him how he expected to pay it an he said "I'll pay it each month" by (meaning the minimum), not understanding that credit cards are not free. So we explain how interest works and that minimum won't pay it off. A few months go by and my parents find a late payment notice from Paypal and we find out he maxed out over $1,000 in credit. Again we pay it off and reprimand him. A couple months pass and I find out he opened credit card and maxes it out to $800. Now I'm angry and unleash on him. After this incident, he was enrolled into a state program for assisted learning. He decided to learn about computers, specifically IT. The program prepared him to take the A++ exam which is the entry level into IT. I knew he needed additional help so I helped him study each Sunday for 2 to 3 hours. During this time he was doing well in his studies and I tell him that he can start using a card to a limit so that he can buy food and drinks while he's out studying. This past February I took him on a trip to Japan, a place he always wanted to go, for his birthday. He loved it. The plan was to come back and continue his studies so he can pass his test and hopefully find a state assisted job. Today, April 4, I check his credit report and I see a $1,300 open balance. It turns out he maxed out a Gamestop credit card, the same card we put a stop to 2 years ago. I let loose again, this time I tell him he's selling his things and paying it back on his own. If he doesn't, then I will take everything he bought and selling it I'm so frustrated and angry at him. But I keep bailing him out because sometimes I feel like it was my fault for not being a good big brother and guiding him. Every time we find out and discipline him, he'll find a way to do it again. I don't know what to do. I don't understand why he keeps doing it. I can't have my parents deal with this stress and I myself have to work full time to support my future wife and our life. Any words of advice are welcome, thank you for your understanding.