Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Bump in the road...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 561760" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>My difficult child has had just a couple slips till now. They were quite early in his recovery and fortunately they were short and he got back to the track. He was also taught that relapses were part of the recovery and you just have to analyze them and learn from them and get back in track as quickly as possible. I know there may well be new, longer relapses for him in future, but now that he hasn't had slips in year and a half, I'm quite happy how we handled them. I don't know if it's a best way, but it was a way I'm able to live with without regrets - at least for now.</p><p></p><p>We didn't in fact react much. Of course I felt horrible, was very afraid he would be going back to active addiction etc. But I really did my best not to show that to him. He was early in his recovery, very young and fragile, it would had not been fair to saddle him with my feelings and fears, he had enough to deal with his own. I did tell him I was sorry he had slipped and that he did know that doing those kind of choices would cost him dearly, if he continued to do so. But more than that I did congratulate him on getting back to working his program, letting them be just slips and making right choices again. That I was proud of those good choices. He was beating himself up enough over his relapses by himself, he didn't need my disappointment to deal with too. And after all, it was my disappointment, my fear, my feelings, not his.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 561760, member: 14557"] My difficult child has had just a couple slips till now. They were quite early in his recovery and fortunately they were short and he got back to the track. He was also taught that relapses were part of the recovery and you just have to analyze them and learn from them and get back in track as quickly as possible. I know there may well be new, longer relapses for him in future, but now that he hasn't had slips in year and a half, I'm quite happy how we handled them. I don't know if it's a best way, but it was a way I'm able to live with without regrets - at least for now. We didn't in fact react much. Of course I felt horrible, was very afraid he would be going back to active addiction etc. But I really did my best not to show that to him. He was early in his recovery, very young and fragile, it would had not been fair to saddle him with my feelings and fears, he had enough to deal with his own. I did tell him I was sorry he had slipped and that he did know that doing those kind of choices would cost him dearly, if he continued to do so. But more than that I did congratulate him on getting back to working his program, letting them be just slips and making right choices again. That I was proud of those good choices. He was beating himself up enough over his relapses by himself, he didn't need my disappointment to deal with too. And after all, it was my disappointment, my fear, my feelings, not his. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Bump in the road...
Top