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Call from Difficult Child produces...nothing!
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 670750" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>I had a very similar message from my son recently, followed by some texts about life not being worth living anyway. I responded by saying that I thought life had endless possibilities but that death had nothing to offer. I also said that I thought he had a worthwhile contribution to make to the world, although he hadn't found what that was yet, and that he was only a third of the way through his life. I know that sounds a bit schmaltzy, but it's how I was feeling at the time, in my place of peaceful, positive radical acceptance. A few days later I heard that he had found a place to stay for a few months through the worst of the winter - <em>without my input. </em>Also that he had acquired a dog because that would mean that he would have to be around for at least another 12 years to care for it.</p><p></p><p>(a dog? ... but that's another story)</p><p></p><p>I find the following extract from RE's thread about detachment to be very helpful and I often read it when I have doubts about how I have backed-off from 'fixing' his problems:</p><p></p><p>* although you will still have love for those persons from whom you have become detached, you will have given them the freedom to become what they will be on their own merit, with their own power, control and responsibility.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 670750, member: 17650"] I had a very similar message from my son recently, followed by some texts about life not being worth living anyway. I responded by saying that I thought life had endless possibilities but that death had nothing to offer. I also said that I thought he had a worthwhile contribution to make to the world, although he hadn't found what that was yet, and that he was only a third of the way through his life. I know that sounds a bit schmaltzy, but it's how I was feeling at the time, in my place of peaceful, positive radical acceptance. A few days later I heard that he had found a place to stay for a few months through the worst of the winter - [I]without my input. [/I]Also that he had acquired a dog because that would mean that he would have to be around for at least another 12 years to care for it. (a dog? ... but that's another story) I find the following extract from RE's thread about detachment to be very helpful and I often read it when I have doubts about how I have backed-off from 'fixing' his problems: * although you will still have love for those persons from whom you have become detached, you will have given them the freedom to become what they will be on their own merit, with their own power, control and responsibility. [/QUOTE]
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