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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 638134" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>More on how that played out--</p><p></p><p>I got a call the next day from the director of the program and my difficult child (on speaker phone). There were mixed messages.</p><p></p><p>They were sort of trying to enlist me to persuade difficult child to stay… but difficult child was asking to go, if I would let him. I said no. There was a lot sort-of-yelling. The director was trying to convince difficult child that he plays a role in what he experiences…. that he has accountability. There was massive friction all around. It went on for half an hour, at least. Then the director took him to lunch and called me later.</p><p></p><p>That conversation, and both really, seemed really and mostly to be about trying to persuade me to come get him, let him sign out against medical advice. That is a confusing thing for me. They say he shouldn't go, but were trying to convince me that I might have to come get him. I said that if he was going to leave early it was CPS that was going to come get him-- I'm not doing it. I'm taking him back early. And the director was telling me about difficult child being disruptive on the floor, a trouble for other kids, and that they couldn't handle. I said, and you think I can? And he was like-- well, he's your responsibility. And then saying that if I don't come get him that it is neglect-- like that is some big scary thing… but I told that I'm not afraid. CPS is fine with me. I can't handle him. …..I mean, really, they are an *institution* and they are saying that he's too much for them-- yet their solution is *me*-- a single mother just trying to get my stuff together and working, and working to achieve a stable life. </p><p></p><p>I found the conversation very upsetting. Luckily, I only had a few hours I had to manage myself before getting to my therapist. Then I ate a pint of ice cream, slept 11 hours, and, gradually, today been able to get calm-ish again.</p><p></p><p>I have to keep plugging away at the IEP… </p><p></p><p>Frustration that the day treatment place was supposed to leave me the paperwork to pick up… paperwork I've been trying to get from them well over a month… and I've been very clear that I need a psychiatric-- not a psychiatric-social…. but they left me a freaking psychiatric-social. </p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, rehab is making me paperwork I can use too. And tomorrow morning I'm going to another hospital were we've been to the psychiatric ER a few times to get paperwork from them.</p><p></p><p>When I talked to rehab today they said difficult child has totally turned around-- like a different kid, they are all amazed. He's fine and great now. When I need from their MD is a psychiatric with axis 1 diagnosis (other than conduct disorder)…. so I pointed out that the night/day thing screams axis 1.</p><p></p><p>Feeling like the call Sunday night just sucked me into a vortex. It's now Tuesday evening and I'm now emerging.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 638134, member: 17805"] More on how that played out-- I got a call the next day from the director of the program and my difficult child (on speaker phone). There were mixed messages. They were sort of trying to enlist me to persuade difficult child to stay… but difficult child was asking to go, if I would let him. I said no. There was a lot sort-of-yelling. The director was trying to convince difficult child that he plays a role in what he experiences…. that he has accountability. There was massive friction all around. It went on for half an hour, at least. Then the director took him to lunch and called me later. That conversation, and both really, seemed really and mostly to be about trying to persuade me to come get him, let him sign out against medical advice. That is a confusing thing for me. They say he shouldn't go, but were trying to convince me that I might have to come get him. I said that if he was going to leave early it was CPS that was going to come get him-- I'm not doing it. I'm taking him back early. And the director was telling me about difficult child being disruptive on the floor, a trouble for other kids, and that they couldn't handle. I said, and you think I can? And he was like-- well, he's your responsibility. And then saying that if I don't come get him that it is neglect-- like that is some big scary thing… but I told that I'm not afraid. CPS is fine with me. I can't handle him. …..I mean, really, they are an *institution* and they are saying that he's too much for them-- yet their solution is *me*-- a single mother just trying to get my stuff together and working, and working to achieve a stable life. I found the conversation very upsetting. Luckily, I only had a few hours I had to manage myself before getting to my therapist. Then I ate a pint of ice cream, slept 11 hours, and, gradually, today been able to get calm-ish again. I have to keep plugging away at the IEP… Frustration that the day treatment place was supposed to leave me the paperwork to pick up… paperwork I've been trying to get from them well over a month… and I've been very clear that I need a psychiatric-- not a psychiatric-social…. but they left me a freaking psychiatric-social. Meanwhile, rehab is making me paperwork I can use too. And tomorrow morning I'm going to another hospital were we've been to the psychiatric ER a few times to get paperwork from them. When I talked to rehab today they said difficult child has totally turned around-- like a different kid, they are all amazed. He's fine and great now. When I need from their MD is a psychiatric with axis 1 diagnosis (other than conduct disorder)…. so I pointed out that the night/day thing screams axis 1. Feeling like the call Sunday night just sucked me into a vortex. It's now Tuesday evening and I'm now emerging. [/QUOTE]
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