I found a doctor who is going to see her in a MONTH. Well, I need to keep looking. lol. In a month she usually has a LOT of mood swings. But she has been cooperative today. Still defiant in so many ways, but with gentle and persistent nudges does what I say.I cannot raise my voice because all hell breaks loose with her, but i hate walking on eggshells around an 11 year old! Still the hangup of getting her in the shower. I wonder why. She feels so much better after and appears to be in a better mood after a shower. Tonight she hit her sister with no provacation. I vowed consequences since it was bedtime when it happened I let it slide. Traditionally she has always struggled with her sister's birthday(today) and becomes jealous since the attention is on someone else, and will swear up and down that she is getting more "stuff" than she got on her birthday. 3 years ago, difficult child had a party with about 12 children there and got presents up the wazoo. Well 10 months later, her sisters birthday came and we didn't give her sister a party but went out to a restaurant. No cake even, but a piece of chocolate pie! and here's difficult child kicking her under the table on her birthday, whining and acting 2 yrs. old and falling out of her seat all to ruin what little we were giving her sister! On the whole, difficult child is eerily calm today. She has been hanging around friends that she recently made and is very happy announcing that she loves her school and that it is the funnest ever she's been to. i expect that little piece of news to change on the next mood swing though. lol Coming home yesterday with one of her new friends, difficult child got really hyper with me and took issue with taking her shoes off at the door. I looked at her friend in a certain way like "What the....?" and her friend's reply to me was, "she doesn't act like this in school". amazing. I already knew that. LOL.