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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 302490" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Sticky situation. I am saddened to hear he wasn't forthcoming about this. I would be hurt and distrusting if S/O went to try to meet a woman without my knowledge. I know that I wouldn't go meet a man without telling my S/O.</p><p></p><p>I have a male friend, a university professor with a wonderful job that gives him tons of time off. He is also a motorcycle enthusiest. Because he has many free weekday afternoons without classes, he uses that time to go for long rides. Most people work those type of hours so often he has to go alone. He happily takes me along anytime I like. Even though S/O knows this, knows my friend, and trusts the situation, I still tell him everytime. If it is spontaneous, my friend would pick me up and we'd swing by S/O's company and pop in to tell him we were off on a ride and where we were heading.</p><p></p><p>I guess for me it's a respect thing. I also have given S/O my login info for facebook, email etc. And I know his. I don't really look at his, not sure if he looks at mine. But the transparency alone helps us both feel there's no reason to feel worried or insecure about online activities.</p><p></p><p>I know it will be hard to say you were on his account without him knowing, but I guess, if it was me, I'd discuss it with him. I think sometimes we keep quiet for fear of hearing what we dont' want to hear, or fear they will blame us for "snooping" and "not trusting" them. I just firmly believe in a transparent relationship as a road to health and happiness. But I can see you between a rock and a hard place.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide to do Tammy, I hope it works out well. It could well be innocent and maybe you just need a good long talk about how omitting details if they are innocent, can lead to fear and doubt in the other person and that isn't fair. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 302490, member: 4264"] Sticky situation. I am saddened to hear he wasn't forthcoming about this. I would be hurt and distrusting if S/O went to try to meet a woman without my knowledge. I know that I wouldn't go meet a man without telling my S/O. I have a male friend, a university professor with a wonderful job that gives him tons of time off. He is also a motorcycle enthusiest. Because he has many free weekday afternoons without classes, he uses that time to go for long rides. Most people work those type of hours so often he has to go alone. He happily takes me along anytime I like. Even though S/O knows this, knows my friend, and trusts the situation, I still tell him everytime. If it is spontaneous, my friend would pick me up and we'd swing by S/O's company and pop in to tell him we were off on a ride and where we were heading. I guess for me it's a respect thing. I also have given S/O my login info for facebook, email etc. And I know his. I don't really look at his, not sure if he looks at mine. But the transparency alone helps us both feel there's no reason to feel worried or insecure about online activities. I know it will be hard to say you were on his account without him knowing, but I guess, if it was me, I'd discuss it with him. I think sometimes we keep quiet for fear of hearing what we dont' want to hear, or fear they will blame us for "snooping" and "not trusting" them. I just firmly believe in a transparent relationship as a road to health and happiness. But I can see you between a rock and a hard place. Whatever you decide to do Tammy, I hope it works out well. It could well be innocent and maybe you just need a good long talk about how omitting details if they are innocent, can lead to fear and doubt in the other person and that isn't fair. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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